New to forum-I'm newly prolapsed and so depressed

Hi all-I'm new to this forum. I'm 10 weeks postpartum and everything has prolapsed-uterus, cystocele, rectocele, and urethra. I'm 41 years old. I have never been so depressed-i feel as though I'm ruined as a woman. My husband and I had a great sex life prior to this. Having your organs in your vagina is the anti-aphrodesiac! I'm also so angry-if i had known this was a remote possibility, I would have asked for a c-section! No one talks about this! I've obsessively researched my condition online-so depressing, as there is no permanent fix. The surgery seems terrifying, can have lots of complications, and has a high failure rate. I also don't want to go through the rest of my life afraid to pick my child up, as this could cause a relapse. Please-has anyone had a good outcome? Any words of advice? Thank you in advance!

I like you had never heard one word about a prolaspe. I was trying to go through the change and not have a hyster. Little did I know I had a prolaped uterus, suffered through 6 years of problems and then I prolasped my bladder so I then found out.

I had my surgery 5 weeks ago. Are you prolaspes major enough to have to have surgery? Early ones can use exercises and there are PT specialist that can help you rebuilt your weak muscles.

And find a good specialist who does these surgeries is my first suggestion. Who has done these types of surgeries.

And yes they say there is a high failure rate. But then there are some success too. And I plan on being in that group. Some fail because they have other underlying issues that are not addressed before surgery. Like bowel problems or lung problems or excessive weight issues where they continue to put strain in that area.

I am very physically active with exercising and weight lifting. I know I won't be lifting heavy weight but I plan on being just as active. I know many who have returned to the same and are doing fine. And you can too! You probably will have to learn the correct way to lift your child to not put strain there.

I can't tell you much about what is ahead. But I am already glad to have had my surgeries. Wish I have done this years ago. Just make sure you have help after your surgery and take the time you need to recover. Good luck

Thank you so much for the response! I'm so glad to hear your story-you have a great attitude, and I'm hoping to get to that point. I'm fighting a really bad depression because of this right now. It has devastated me. I wish you continued success with your recovery, and please post again in a few months with an update-we need to hear more success stories!

It seems like you have a lot going on in your life and in such a short time. I have found focusing on what you need to be doing at the time and letting the others things wait until you can get to it helps. I am concerned when you say you are depressed. And did you recently give birth? Your body has been through a lot and needs to heal some too!

You need support going through so much. You have to let people around you know what you need. If you ever need to talk I would be available. <oops! email address removed for your safety and security>. Life sometimes brings us a lot of things to handle at once. I took care of my son with a rare heart/lung defect for his entire 15 years of life. To me this physical problem pales in comparsion. I respect my health and my body because of it. But I won't let it become my life or take away from this gift. And there are always some answers to be found to better take care of ourselves. And people who are willing to help.

Thank you so much for your kindness and wonderful words of encouragement. You are truly inspiring! I am going through a lot right now, as I am adjusting to being a new mom at 10 weeks postpartum. I also think part of the reason this has affected me to such an extent is that I place a lot of importance on my sexuality and my relationship with my husband. I feel like my sexuality has been taken away from me! I'm also angry that this could have easily been prevented by a c-section. My baby has a cephalatoma(big big bump that will hopefully be reabsorbed by his body eventually) on his head from the brutal 2 hours of hard pushing I did. I know I should be thankful and there are many worse things that can happen. It's still very hard, though. My life has been changed forever by this condition, and I feel like such less of a woman.

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Originally Posted by prolapsedpost Thank you so much for your kindness and wonderful words of encouragement. You are truly inspiring! I am going through a lot right now, as I am adjusting to being a new mom at 10 weeks postpartum. I also think part of the reason this has affected me to such an extent is that I place a lot of importance on my sexuality and my relationship with my husband. I feel like my sexuality has been taken away from me! I'm also angry that this could have easily been prevented by a c-section. My baby has a cephalatoma(big big bump that will hopefully be reabsorbed by his body eventually) on his head from the brutal 2 hours of hard pushing I did. I know I should be thankful and there are many worse things that can happen. It's still very hard, though. My life has been changed forever by this condition, and I feel like such less of a woman.

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this!! It is a very depressing and frustrating thing to have to deal with, especially when you are young. I was 23 and pregnant when I found out I had a prolapsed uterus, bladder, and rectum. I too value my sex life and relationship with my husband.
Let me tell you, you are no less of a woman because you and your reproductive organs are having disagreements. (That's what I say, my uterus and I just didn't get along and it wanted to leave so I kicked it out.) In a lot of ways my life has improved since my histerectomy. I feel better overall, my incapacitating lower back pain is gone, and now that the prolapses are taken care of, I can now sit on the floor with my kids again. My sex life has even gotten better! I often get frustrated, even 3 years later, that I am falling apart but I try to take it in stride. I made my decision and I won't look back. My uterus is not who I am. It isn't what makes me a woman and not having it does not take away from my feminity. Your uterus is not what makes you you, it is not what makes your sex life what it is, it is not your identity. You are a woman, a wife, and a mother and you will still be those things whether or not you have your uterus.
I am so sorry that you have to deal with this. Sorry this is so long too. I hope that you can find some comfort and figure out what is best for you and your family.

I understand the confusion and depression with this condition. I was really upset at first and scheduled the hyst. Now I'm feeling more scared of the surgery and something going wrong. And what if it doesn't last? Those all all concerns that no one can really answer. My body will either heal and work better or it won't. I feel selfish worrying about these things because I'm the one taking care of others. My elderly parents live with my DH and myself. I hate to have to rely on my parents when I'm supposed to be taking care of them. My DH is eight years younger than I am and I worry this will be too much for him to understand. I feel like I am old and falling apart. It just has not been a good day. I thought about rescheduling but I don't want to go through the waiting again. I know this will not get better without help.