TAH: Sad for this

Surgery tomorrow 2/22. Orlando FL
Hi everyone I'm Jo, 44 year old single mom 2 girls 9 and 6( I started late in life)I've been putting this off for years.

I have abdnomyosis, an 8 cc complex cyst on right ovary that's been there for over a year, a 3 cc complex on left, endometriosis literally everywhere. Including kidneys, colon and spleen.
Thankfully my GYN referred me to an endometriosis specialist who is equipped with a team to handle the Endo wherever they may find it.

Why am I sad... Even though I'm 44 I always had the hope to have more children The thought of my options being taken away is devastating to me.
Anyone else here going through this same thought process?
Blessings to all !

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Originally Posted by Jo Riley Surgery tomorrow 2/22. Orlando FL Hi everyone I'm Jo, 44 year old single mom 2 girls 9 and 6( I started late in life)I've been putting this off for years. I have abdnomyosis, an 8 cc complex cyst on right ovary that's been there for over a year, a 3 cc complex on left, endometriosis literally everywhere. Including kidneys, colon and spleen. Thankfully my GYN referred me to an endometriosis specialist who is equipped with a team to handle the Endo wherever they may find it. Why am I sad... Even though I'm 44 I always had the hope to have more children The thought of my options being taken away is devastating to me. Anyone else here going through this same thought process? Blessings to all !

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I think some of us, no Matter where in the process can feel a bit of sadness. I know I did. I've been blessed and felt my family was "complete"....the thought honestly didn't come up until I set my date. I always wanted more kids, but DH did not....so it was left that way. Mine are grown now, but I still allowed myself a mini break down for my "what if." I'm 46, so I think there is a lot going on with me too trying to navigate an almost "empty nest", & "re negotiating our marriage. Things have changed so things do have to shift. I'll keep you in my prayers. There are lots of great ladies with much better advice. Xoxo

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Originally Posted by Jo Riley Surgery tomorrow 2/22. Orlando FL Hi everyone I'm Jo, 44 year old single mom 2 girls 9 and 6( I started late in life)I've been putting this off for years. I have abdnomyosis, an 8 cc complex cyst on right ovary that's been there for over a year, a 3 cc complex on left, endometriosis literally everywhere. Including kidneys, colon and spleen. Thankfully my GYN referred me to an endometriosis specialist who is equipped with a team to handle the Endo wherever they may find it. Why am I sad... Even though I'm 44 I always had the hope to have more children The thought of my options being taken away is devastating to me. Anyone else here going through this same thought process? Blessings to all !

I want to keep my girly parts because I came in the world with them and I wanted to leave with them. I am 53, 3 grown children I don't want anymore. I tried for 4 years since the fibroids growth and the cysts, endo, etc.. started. I live on ibuprofen for a year. I bought overnight pads to wear during the day( 2 pads). Going from floor to floor( Company) to find pain zappers for my pain.

Weeks before I call the doctor, I suffer through the pain. I hit a wall and I wanted it out. I went to the doctor and what did I see. 2 pregnant women and 1 women with a baby. I want to run. While waiting in the doctor office. The doctor was listen to the baby heart bead, I could hear a baby heart beat. My head fell low and I tear up. I shifted by weight and the pain hit me hard. (I start doing the labor pain blowing).

I see babies and tear up and move on. It will get better in time. Give it some time.

It's ok to cry, let it out.

Sending you love and support for tomorrow.

I made sure I carved out some silent time for myself prior to leaving for my operation to say goodbye to my uterus, thank it for the life that it had given to my two children, for the years of pain free and hassle free periods (up til the fibroids took up residence), and to explain to my body what it was about to go through. I had a good old cry during that process which felt very cathartic and healing.

Since the operation I've not really been as emotional...I really feel I completed something there. I also asked for my uterus back from pathology so I could plant a fig tree on it...and it can continue giving life!

If you're interested there's a great guided meditation I found invaluable which you can buy on iTunes which is specifically for pre and post surgery. It's by Belleruth Naparstek. I played it on a loop whilst I was in pre-op too...really calmed me down.

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Originally Posted by Medulsa Sending you love and support for tomorrow. I made sure I carved out some silent time for myself prior to leaving for my operation to say goodbye to my uterus, thank it for the life that it had given to my two children, for the years of pain free and hassle free periods (up til the fibroids took up residence), and to explain to my body what it was about to go through. I had a good old cry during that process which felt very cathartic and healing. Since the operation I've not really been as emotional...I really feel I completed something there. I also asked for my uterus back from pathology so I could plant a fig tree on it...and it can continue giving life! If you're interested there's a great guided meditation I found invaluable which you can buy on iTunes which is specifically for pre and post surgery. It's by Belleruth Naparstek. I played it on a loop whilst I was in pre-op too...really calmed me down.

I went to Itunes to find pre and post surgery. I did not find it but I found one for pain and menopause.

I know it's difficult to have your surgery when you were hoping to have options longer. When I was your age, I had a 9 cm septated cyst on my left ovary and had a laparoscopy to reduce it and adhesions left from the C-section for my son. Now, over 25 years later, I just had an 8 cm hemorrhagic cyst on that same ovary (path isn't back yet but assume that's the culprit) that took up residence behind my uterus and butting up against the sigmoid colon. On 2/11 I had everything removed and already can see less swelling in my legs and tummy - it must have been blocking my lymph system. I hope in a few short days you'll too feel this is the right decision because you'll start to feel so much healthier and be able to enjoy your 2 beautiful girls all the more. Will be thinking of you today. Good luck!!

Hi Jo!

I'm 39 and have two children a son and a daughter. My DH wanted at least two more and I always thought I would have one more.

After a year of being in pain with fibroids, cysts, heavy bleeding and the worst cramps I came to realization that it is not going to happen.

For me personally it's tough when I see babies.

However on the positive side is that I'm extremely grateful for my two children and there are so many women who go through this and they didn't have the opportunity to have one biological child.

It is not easy to let go but time will heal your sadness.

I feel for you and good luck for your surgery today!! 😊

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Originally Posted by WonderDee I went to Itunes to find pre and post surgery. I did not find it but I found one for pain and menopause.

If you search the artist's name on Google it comes up.

Good luck