You are NOT complaining or whining. These are valid concerns you have and you have come to *just* the right place to let it all out!
Now, let's get down to business. First of all, I'm glad you have such great friends. Aren't they a joy?
I think you should just let it all go. Leave the house. Don't wash another dish. Don't do another load of laundry. Tonight, when everyone's home, stand up and clap your hands like a schoolmarm and say "I have an announcement." Go over to the TV and turn it off. Turn to your family and say something like this:
"OK. As of today, I'm on sick leave. I'm in pain, I'm scared, I need you all and you don't seem to understand what that means. Until you DO, we really don't have much to talk about. I'm about to have major surgery and I hope you *get* it before then, but if you don't, guess what? You'll get your own food, wash your own clothes, and pick up your own dishes, because I ain't. Now, I'm going to take a nice long bath and then get into bed and start on my new book. If any of you would like to talk about this, you just knock on the door and we'll discuss it."
THEN - tell your friends how you feel and get THEM to talk to your family members about taking care of you.
If the family still doesn't come around, well, Sweetie, just keep depending on your friends. Assign them each a job ("you drive me to the hospital, you come fetch me, you stay around during the day, you during the night
and so on. Make it work.
If the family STILL doesn't come around, well, I just can't imagine it. My family talks about *everything* - every little slight, every little upset - because if we don't, resentment festers. We are all kind of very emotional. If my family wouldn't support me, I'd let them know how it made me feel in a minute and I'd be darn wicked about it. I'm there for them, they should be there for me.
I think your family just doesn't get how serious this is. Send them over to pelvicfloor.com. I went there and saw pictures of all the surgeries they do. Scary!
It'll be OK! I hope I have not offended you. Just trying to help. :-)
4 days away.
. I am feeling very nervous. I cannot seem to relax. I have been having a hard time sleeping at night. I am not getting anything done at home that I was supposed to do before friday. My house is a mess.I had a back and neck injury 3 years ago, and with the pain I have been having with the endo and adeno, I have had a hard time being able to do things around the house. My DH, DD. and DS have not been helping me around the house I ask all the time but they don't seem to understand. I am getting very 
I am worried how it will be after my surgery. I know that I have to take it very easy after my surgery but I don't think anyone will do things around here. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can get my family to understand that this is not a minor thing that the surgerry will be major. But I must say I have wonderful friends that have been takeing me out or inviting me for dinner just trying to help me keep my mind off of things. I am sorry for complaining, thank you for being here. I would not be getting through this without you.
sweetie1
