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06-22-2014, 06:52 PM
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HysterSister
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Posts: 219
Hysterectomy: September 25th, 2013
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Re: How do I convalesce after hysterectomy? Environment where spouse is actively drinking.
My partner is a recovering drug addict. He has been clean for 4 years but I worried about the stress of my surgery might tip him over the edge. He did something totally opposite. He said he needed to be strong for me and put my needs first. That this whole thing was about me, not him. And he has been a rock.
This is the one time you NEED to be selfish. Not only healing from a hysterectomy can be exhausting but the emotional stress is unbelievable. Added to that, the hormones are totally out of wack, whether the ovaries stay or go, because if they stay they tend to go into shock anyway.
The last thing you need to be dealing with is a selfish alcoholic. And I agree with a couple of others...there is no need for you to move out of your home. That is where you will be the most comfortable recovering. He needs to remove himself until such time as you feel ready to confront all that is wrong.
(((Hugz))) to you. Take care of you first. He is an adult and therefore responsible for himself. You worry about you.
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