Sex Too Soon after LAVH????

Hi all. I'm going to sound like the biggest, most irresponsible idiot on the planet, because I did something REALLY stupid last night, 2.5 weeks post-op. My husband and I were "celebrating" my recovery last night, and we literally and quite frankly had too much to drink. We had full sex. Not too gentle, either.

Yes, I know that I should have waited until my 6 week post-op appt to get the OK from my doctor, etc. Yes, I know that I could have seriously pulled stitches, damaged my vagina, get an infection and other stuff like that. I would have NEVER done this under normal circumstances, but (not excusing it) I was drunk. (I am off all pain meds, btw.) This is not a normal thing that I do, and I am horrified at myself. Please don't beat me up, because I feel so horrible about it.


My recovery has been going well, and I am in a little discomfort today, but nothing too bad. It kinda "aches" down there, but there is no bleeding.

I am reading horror after horror story regarding having sex too early, and I am petrified (I'm sooooo scared that I've been crying) that I may have caused terrible damage. I am soooo embarassed to call my doctor tomorrow and tell him about it, but I don't know what to do.

Please tell me if anyone else has done something like this, and did it turn out OK?? Do I tell my doctor tomorrow, or should I just wait and see? I am scared to death!!!!

Thanks in advance,
Kathryn

I am sorry you are feeling this way. Like most people on here say, you are not the first person nor the last to have sex early. I would call your doctor and let them know what happened so you can get checked out.

Good luck.

I agree...it happened. No sense beating yourself up about it. But don't let one mistake cause you more problems by not taking action. Tell the Dr.

don't beat yourself up - I've read enough to think that women who have sex too soon are in the majority! I can pretty much guarantee that you won't be the first one your doctor's heard from either!

Err on the side of caution; your health is much more important than your pride! I'd say to keep an eye on how you feel and if there is any type of discharge (bright red blood, clear watery discharge, or foul smelling) - all can be signals of something being wrong 'up there'!

My husband won't touch me - Once I'm cleared for sex I'm going to have to get HIM drunk!!!!

I remember how raging my sexual urges were. Had I been drunk I don't know if I could have held off either. lol But definitely call the doc's office. It won't be the first time they've heard this. But even without a lot of pain or bleeding, I would think he may want to check to make sure you didn't pop a stitch or something. Better for you to know now. I was checked at 4 weeks, was fine. At 6 weeks (without even having sex) a piece of what he thought may have been fallopian tube fell in the cuff and had healed. So give a call and see what they say just to be safe.

Take care. No alcohol until you're cleared for sex, Missy! lol

(((kathyrynmatthew)))

I'm sorry this has happened and you're now so worried.

As your ((sisters)) above have said ~ please tell your doctor. It won't be the first time he's heard it and it won't be the last! He may wish to examine you to ensure everything is ok. You can be sure he'll want to nip any potential problems in the bud rather than deal with something that may worsen because you didn't contact him.

Please make the call and let us know what he says? In the meantime, be kind to yourself and try not to worry.

Hi,

As all the other ladies said, dont beat yourself up. It seems to be a consensus that around 2-3wks post, we all went through this super ***** stage! But I do want to warn, even though everything may have went fine last night, you really need to wait until the DR clears you. You had LAVH, as I did, and the risk is to your vaginal cuff. You have an incision in there trying to heal, as well as new tissue forming. The risk of infection is why they tell you nthing in the vagina. Now that doesnt mean you cant have outercourse (per your DR's instructions), and still get the same pleasure. I honestly waited a wk after the DR gave me the OK, and I am glad I did. I was not emotionally ready. But now knowing that I am healed, gives me the confidence to have sex, knowing I am not hurting anything. And then not stressing about it afterwards. Watch for signs of infection, smelly discharge,fever, etc. =)

Thanks for the support, ladies. I called first thing this morning and I just now heard back from my doc's office. My discomfort is minimal (still a little achy in the va-jay-jay especially when I go to the bathroom or if I happen to squat down a little which I try not to do anyway, but it's not seeming to affect a whole lot) and there is absolutely no bleeding or any other unusual discharge. The nurse said she consulted with my doc and he said that if I was bleeding (I'm not at all) or not having bowel movements (I have had several of them since we did the deed) and/or I was doubled over in pain or something then they would need for me to come in...buuuut...that I am probably OK. She did tell me to NOT do it again until my doctor OKs it during 6 week post-op appointment (if he does OK it by then, anyhow), and to keep a close eye on anything unusual (bleeding, fever, more pain, or something along those lines). Believe me, I will NOT be repeating this incident. It is NOT worth the stress or worry, for sure!!!!!!

Thank you so much for not judging - and I am definitely steering away from ANY and all alcohol for a loooooooooooong time! I still can't believe I did something so stupid to myself. I am a little relieved after speaking with the nurse, but I still don't know for sure if any damage was done, so that's a little worrying. I do trust my doctor very much (he is excellent), so I guess I should just learn from my mistakes and move on and hope nothing pops up.

Anyone else ever do this? Or are a lot of women like me and afraid to 'fess up? I guess I would feel better if I knew I wasn't the only one (I know I'm not, but I can't find a lot of people who have posted about doing this), or if there was a story in which everything turned out OK.

Hopefully in a couple of weeks, I'll be able to post that everything is fine after my post-op appointment.

Thanks,
Kathryn

I am relieved to hear that your doctor is not overly concerned but wants you to keep an eye on things. I am sure you are not the first one to "break the rules". My doctor was adamant (he told me no less than THREE times!) that I was not to have sex before he releases me. I asked him if I could do other things (outercourse!) and he said, "no clitoral stimulation for you!" Well, I broke that rule 10 days post op, and a half a dozen times since. I HAVE been good about no penetration, but I do feel guilty afterwards, thinking my doctor would be so disappointed. It is really hard for some of us to abstain, even though we know we should. I probably would have broken all the rules myself, but the risk of infection from semen or saliva has made me nervous enough to keep that in check. I have been enjoying what we have been doing (despite the guilt afterwards) and am crossing my fingers that he will release me for sex at my check up on Wednesday. This five weeks has seemed like such a long time...

I am just passed 2 weeks after TAH and yes last night I couldnt resist the desires. My husband was more cautious than I was but I felt ok about it all and so it was very carefull and gentle.
Today I feel great - I am just hoping that it stays that way and we wont be rushing back to it again too soon.
I also felt afterward that it was a stupid thing to do but I think I was just missing the intimacy.
I am not sure whether to tell my Dr or not !!! My post op appt is not for another 2 weeks yet.