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Very emotional.
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08-03-2002, 03:06 PM
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Posts: 44
Hysterectomy: August 8th, 2002
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Very emotional.
I need to ask my fellow hystersisters about how emotional I am right now. I am 5 days away from my surgery. I feel that I have made the right decision for the surgery but I am still a little nervous. I feel like I have researched and I know that the problems that I am having are really affecting the quality of my life. So do any of you have suggestions about just how to handle the emotions? Yesterday I cried all the way home from the store.
I have an amazing DH who is so supportive and is taking two weeks off to be with me. He seems to be really strong about all of this but I am sure he is afraid of the months to come also. Any advice would be appreciated.
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08-03-2002, 03:24 PM
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Posts: 24
Hysterectomy: August 26th, 2002
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Very emotional.
For me, getting out of the house and into beautiful nature helped to calm me.
What I did before my bowel surgery was to take a day trips to the arboretum with a gal pal of mine. It got me away from the house. My hubby got time away from a nervous wife. I got to surround myself in natural beauty and burn off some nervous energy on the trails. There is a creek in the park and we would sit on the foot bridge with our feet dangling in the water, and just talk.
Maybe there is something like that in your area?
Even a picnic lunch in a park with a duck pond is a great stress reducer. Don't forget to bring extra bread to feed the ducks!
Hang in there. Your waiting is almost over.
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08-03-2002, 03:25 PM
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Posts: 35
Hysterectomy: July 26th, 2002
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Very emotional.
You my dear are o so very normal. Look through the back logs of this message board. Then go to the post op board and see how releaved we all are. I think it was about 5 days before my big day that I broke too. Then I decided that these days are few!!!!! In the time we have ahead these days are such a small amount of time for such a big gain.
One more thing Keep busy!!!
You are in my prayers and on my mind, best of luck to you
breezy
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08-03-2002, 04:14 PM
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Posts: 7
Hysterectomy: August 1st, 2002
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Re: Very emotional.
I can totally relate! I spent the two weeks prior to surgery crying at everything! I am two days post and very relieved...am feeling good and moving forward...
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08-03-2002, 04:26 PM
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Posts: 1,379
Hysterectomy: June 4th, 2002
Surgery Type: TAH
Ovaries: Removed both
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Very emotional.
This is very normal. I was cool, calm and collected all the way through. I had my school kids to keep me busy despite not feeling well. School ended on a fRiday, but surgery was Tuesday. Sunday was my day to get frazzled. I kept thinking of all the things I wanted to get done before Tuesday. I thought gee, I wanted to get the bedroom painted. Duh, I hadn't done it in months, why should I be worried about it now!!! Little things bothered me. Finally I went out to lunch with DH and friends after church and relaxed. Monday was slightly better only because I had to do my bowel prep so I went out in the morning and then "waited." Took my bowel prep and waited more. Gee whiz, that was the longest day.
My suggestion is find something to occupy your time. Strolling through the mall if you have to. Go to WalMart and wander around. Something to kill time and occupy your mind. Have lunch with friends or a girlfriend. Buy jigsw puzzle for the kids, or find a couple of easy reading books for when you return from the hospital and you're sitting on the couch or buy magazines. But don't start anything major (like painting the bedroom)
The days will go quick enough, make the best of them.
TC
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08-03-2002, 06:15 PM
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Posts: 156
Hysterectomy: August 5th, 2002
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very emotional
Hi 30something,
This is Saturday night. I'm scheduled for a TVH/BSO plus vaginal repairs and a TVT sling on monday morning, first thing. I spent last Wednesday and a good part of Thursday grieving. I was very, very depressed and quite thrown by it. By Friday, my dd had arrived from another state for the surgery and prep--she will be here for almost three weeks and we spent the day together running errands and squeezing in a movie in the middle of the day, which we both enjoyed tremendously. Friday night, last night, my dh, dd, and I went out for a "last night out" for me for a while and had a lovely dinner. Today, I've been running more errands, as have my dh and dd, much of which we have done together. I have been on a tear downsizing as much as I can, getting rid of stuff which I haven't used in years, insisting that dh deal with some stuff in the house that has been sitting around collecting dust, etc. I know this has symbolic value for me. I haven't always been the greatest company, but I'm coping differently now. Which is not to say that I won't have more swings down--I'm suire they will come--but to assure you that the intensity and range of emotions you're having are the most normal thing that could and should be happening right now. I came to this site at the worst of it and found immediate connections and encouragement and empathy. And it really, really helped me at a time when I was at my absolute lowest point. So use this site often and well. There are many sisters out there who have been through it and can reassure you in ways that I can't quite do yet that waiting is the worst part. Many sisters counseled me to feel the feelings, assured me that they were normal and would pass, and they were right. And in the process I have come to understand myself a bit better. And to understand what meanings these particular organs have held for me. And to prepare to make room now in my life for the new and unknown. While I still am struggling with a splitting headache, alot of the heartache seems to have calmed for me. You will get there--to a place of peace with what is happening. I will meet you there. Big Hugs, New Yorker
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08-03-2002, 07:27 PM
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Posts: 44
Hysterectomy: August 8th, 2002
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new yorker
I was so touched by the things that you have shared. I will say a prayer for you on Monday. You seemed to say everything that I was filling as far as what the organs do mean to each of us. I guess for me it is hard because we have one daughter and tried for 15 years to have another child with no success. It is almost a grieving process for the finality of it all. But remember it is a beginning to something new and different. Please know that you have brought me much comfort and I will be curious in the next several weeks to hear how you are doing.
Thanks.
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08-05-2002, 12:26 AM
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Posts: 259
Hysterectomy: March 20th, 2002
Surgery Type: SAH
Ovaries: Kept 1 or both
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Very emotional.
Here is a picture of me the week before surgery:
:cry: :burning:
Everyone is different, but I would hazard a guess that probably 95% of all ladies have a meltdown during those last few days before the actual big day.
Believe me.....waiting really is the worst of it!
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08-05-2002, 08:17 AM
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Aug 7th Yikes!!!
I'm off to see the wizard on Wed. I too know 30 something
that I have made the right decisions and have researched till
I drove my Dr. crazy- gee I hope he's not a "mad" scientist
now. But, I try to face the rest of the time and my fears with
humor and tasks I need to do. And I to, have fears in the
back of my mind, in fact I had a pinched back muscle yesterday
and I, am not as far as I know, worried that much! But, that is
where it showed up! So, now that the time is near, I actually
wish it were today!! Good luck my dear!! I'll be thinking of you!
PS. I am 48 not forty something unfortunately nearly
50 and after this I will be a mean fighting machine!!
Show me the way to retirement oh Lord!!
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08-05-2002, 12:26 PM
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Posts: 44
Hysterectomy: August 8th, 2002
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tbird1202
Good luck to you my fellow sister. I will be thinking about you on Wed. Your comforting words have helped and we will have to remember that this is a new beginning for us both. Pain free.
Talk to you on the post side soon.
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