One month to go and had my first emotional breakdown

Today I was talking to my mom about surgery and that sometimes I felt she was thinking this was a 'walk in the park' (She has not had a hysterectomy) She said I was reading too many things. I explained to her the my doctor recommended this site and that I was reading up on things so I could be mentally prepare for what I MIGHT experience. Everything from the best case to the worst case, knowing I may falling somewhere in the middle. I said that this is a support site for women that HAVE experienced the surgery.

My mom is the most supportive person about this surgery but I felt that she was discounting why I felt I need to come here for answers/suggestions to how I was feeling.. Well in the middle of talking to her, I just started bawling.. I didn't realize that I was really holding my emotions inside and trying to be strong in this. I didnt realize how much I am am afraid of the unknown.... mostly about afterwards with forced menopause and what I will be feeling

I know that this is the right decision and probably will have more of these emotional breakdowns.. Mom felt bad that I felt hurt by her reaction to my reading out on the surgery/recovery and what to expect. I know she supports me 100% but I am glad I had the breakdown in front of her so she can understand I may not be as strong as I try to make it look like.

Thanks for listening.. I hope I am not a emotional wreck like this until my surgery. Otherwise it will be a very long month!!!

I'm 10 days away and it's all I can think about and it's awful. I do try and keep busy and distracted but I have moments of fear. I try to put a positive spin on it saying in 10 days I'll be fibroid/pain free!! Yes I will have pains but they'll be different.

Hi Auntie,
The preop waiting time is so hard. The stress and anxiety and the fears of the unknown can be overwhelming. And that can be difficult for friends and family members to understand. They may think that coming here makes us think about it too much or scare us with bad outcomes. But many of us are like you and NEED to know to prepare mentally and physically. We also get reassured by all the positive stories. There is SO much our doctors don't tell us beforehand. I love my GYN but he didn't tell me much about what to expect even though I asked many detailed questions. I think that's because they really don't know who will experience what side effects and they don't want to scare us needlessly.

I'm glad your communicated to your mom. She sounds lovely and now she has a better understanding of what you're going through. Even if we choose hysterectomy most of us really don't want it and that makes this difficult.

Please be assured that most women are glad they had the surgery and experience few lasting complications. There are lots of articles on this site that are informative too. Please come here often and post all your questions and concerns or if you just need a hug.

Autietams -

Hi sweetie. I know exactly what you are going through. My sister did not understand the turmoil I was going through (both before and after surgery). She just could not grasp it. To boot, she lives 1500 miles away so it was all via phone. I think you really have to go through this to understand.

DH was supportive, but again did not understand what was going on. I had several before (with only 10 days to prepare), and many more after surgery.

Know that the anxiety and fear, the intense emotions, the emotional roller coaster, and yes, even the freakouts, are very normal. This surgery is MAJOR SURGERY and a very BIG DEAL. You are not alone - never on this site! We really understand what you are going through, and are here for you.

in there, sweetie. Post when ever you need. We will be here...

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Originally Posted by auntietams Today I was talking to my mom about surgery and that sometimes I felt she was thinking this was a 'walk in the park' (She has not had a hysterectomy) She said I was reading too many things. I explained to her the my doctor recommended this site and that I was reading up on things so I could be mentally prepare for what I MIGHT experience. Everything from the best case to the worst case, knowing I may falling somewhere in the middle. I said that this is a support site for women that HAVE experienced the surgery. My mom is the most supportive person about this surgery but I felt that she was discounting why I felt I need to come here for answers/suggestions to how I was feeling.. Well in the middle of talking to her, I just started bawling.. I didn't realize that I was really holding my emotions inside and trying to be strong in this. I didnt realize how much I am am afraid of the unknown.... mostly about afterwards with forced menopause and what I will be feeling I know that this is the right decision and probably will have more of these emotional breakdowns.. Mom felt bad that I felt hurt by her reaction to my reading out on the surgery/recovery and what to expect. I know she supports me 100% but I am glad I had the breakdown in front of her so she can understand I may not be as strong as I try to make it look like. Thanks for listening.. I hope I am not a emotional wreck like this until my surgery. Otherwise it will be a very long month!!!

My mom was the same way. She still thinks I should be up and around and I am just not there yet. Well I am up and around but I'm not ready to run the marathon called housekeeping and household chef yet. You just need to keep being honest. I told my mom I was going to do what my Dr told me to and give my body the time it needs.

I know how you feel - the mom as I lost mine almost 2 years ago. I have my grandma that I talk to but she says I read to much. Well like you I like to know the what ifs even if they freak me out. I am 10 days away from my big day Oct 9th preop tuesday. I have found major comfort on this site. I am glad I was told to check this site out. I am always crying over the little things. worried about things I dont have control over, but we are having amajor surgery so we have that right. Hugs