Sex too soon.

Well it was an eye opener to myself. I had it in my Uterus, tumor on left ovarie and in my large melon size Cyst. So having everything out was the only way to go. Only thing clear was my Cervix. But good news is he found nothing in my Lymp Nodes so i dont need any follow up. Like Chemo or that type. My paps had all been good. As was all my blood tests. If i woudnt of been having so many bladder infections and pain that sent me to the Hospital. I wonder how much worse it all would of gotton. I should of listened to my body more. I felt like i had a brick sitting on my bladder all the time. Ignore it and it wil go away. Could of been the biggest mistake of my life. But now im doing great, will never take my health for granted again.

I too was worried that I wouldn't be able to achieve the big O but I can say after a very pleasurable week of being able to have sex, I no longer have worries. It has been easier to have an orgasm and multiples which I haven't done in many, many years.
We did start to "play" a couple days early (think outercourse). Finally after days of partial, we went all in and it didn't hurt. My suggestion is to wait until you're cleared.
Oh and yes, I did cry the first time we had sex. I was so relieved that I orgasmed. Was so worried that I wouldn't/couldn't.

I have to say, reading your posts makes me envy you both. I'm 2 weeks post op and my husband has picked now to throw the biggest fit ever. I have the holes in my walls to prove it. He's sleeping on the couch, took off his wedding ring and refuses to speak to me. Thankfully, I'm feeling good enough not to need to rely on him but it just hurts that I need him emotionally right now and he's so angry. We couldn't afford the surgery but I had a severe pelvic infection and my Dr said it had to be done, no waiting but he feels I should have put it off. To top it off, the stress of my then up coming surgery, I resumed smoking after quitting for 5 years. So, needless to say he discovered I was smoking and the objects started to fly. It's always heartbreaking to realize that just because you love them doesn't always mean they love you. Right now, I'm relying on God and getting my strength and peace from Him. As far as my husband, I am physically unable to fight with him so I hide in our bedroom, praying he gets over it soon. Thank the Lord for the good hubby's out there!!

Sweetie, this sounds just awful! Dont let him hit you. If you have to leave. I know that shounds easy on my end. But no woman should live like that. I know you must be so stressed, but try to take care of your self. Ive never had this type of experience so i really dont know what to say. I wish i could pick you up and bring you here to rest and have some peace. And when things calm down, you try to get off those smokes. I know its the last thing on your mind, but they are evil, lost both my parents to them and just hate em. Do you have a family member that could talk to him? Or would that make it worse? I will pray for you and please take care of yourself. Hopefully he will get his head on straight and think of what he is doing. Take care.

Jennifer whether you are physically able or not, You Should Not have to fight him. That's not love sweetie. I know that's it's easy for me to say because I'm not in your shoes, but his kind of love is something yhat you may not be able to survive. Is there a family member or friend that you can go to. You are worth so much more. Yes, you can depend on God, He loves you and He wants you to love you too. You are a child of the most high and absolutely nothing is too hard for him. So sweetie, I would like for you to call the domestics violence hotline. Talk to them. They won't tell you what to do because you have to make that choice, but they can give you options or tell you where you can go. I know the consequenses in calling the police, but it something that you may have to do to protect yourself. Please know that you are not alone. There has got to be someone there that you can turn to for help, because where you are is not safe for you. My soul cries for you. Please know that you are worthy and worth it.
I will keep you in my prayers. Please keep coming back here. We are here for you

I guess I was glad to see this reply. I am almost five weeks post op. My hubby and I have not had inter course yet I am scared to death, because something as simple as mopping caused me to bust a stitch. My doctor said no sex for six weeks, so no sex for six weeks I am sticking to that and I know it bothers my husband. We was never that intimate to begin with but I know he has to be frustrated.. I have been hurting and bleeding since my first week after surgery. My follow up is next week

Jennifer 29 - Your environment isn't conducive to healing. Please go to a friend, family member or go to an emergency shelter, or as suggested, call a hot line. Your body is not going to recover well if you are stressed. You only have one chance to heal and this is it.