TVH 5 weeks post hysterectomy: Anyone else expected to be back to normal by friends?

I'm there too and my friends and family have the same reaction. They want me to run around town and work like I did pre-surgery. I am still so tender and have pain on and off. I went back to work too early and ended up on my couch this past week. Thankfully I've had no major medical setbacks - just exhaustion and some back and abdominal pain. The biggest thing is to just listen to your body and let yourself heal. I've decided I don't care how much time I need- I just want to heal and be healthy. Prayers for healing and peace to you all! 😘

dear all, dear blonde forgive me if i make a mistake
i feel exactly the same as you one month has passed since my abdominal surgery, and everyone is saying "when are you coming to work" when are you coming to visit us, a as you said, if you dont sound like dying, you are supposed to be ok...the doctor told me that i should take a couple of weeks more to recover...i also feel that everybody was so supportive when i was at hospital - the castle- but as the days go by the "magic is gone" and the pressure to be "normal again " sometimes is a bit upsetting
i feel very sorry for you, but, i feel comfort in knowing that i am not alone in this feeling
thank you and blessings

[quote=BlondeBuffy72;4578818]Hi I am new to forums so sorry if I do this wrong



I am 5 weeks post op now but I am just wondering if anyone else feels they are expected to be back to normal by now by their friends?

Hi Amy!!

Hope your recovery goes well! Have you got anyone to help you at home?

I guess it really is true that people don't understand something until they experience it themselves. That is why it's so great to have other women on here who understand completely! Not everyone on here has exactly the same experiences and we are all different people but we have all been through the same thing and can at least be compassionate to one another knowing its not an easy thing to go through.
Take care and hope you recover well

dear blonde thank for the reply!
this site is really amazing
i live alone, my sisters and friends have stayed to help , and fortunately, i had no complications, from the physical point of view, i have to deal with emotional challenges such as grieving about being childlessness and not having been able to conceive,
i guess that is about emotional healing, reading all these post really inspire me and give me support to figure out how to move on
a big hug from buenos aires, argentina (hope my english is fine

I just found this site yesterday and as I read this thread I was amazed. My husband, friends and family have been amazing BUT they thought after a week or two I should be back to doing everything as before. My stress has been so high before and after the surgery that I quit sleeping and now can't sleep during the day and have been normally getting only 1 to 2 hours of sleep at night. I think new meds will take care of this and my anxiety. Right now my husband and son and grandkids just want me back to being "normal." No one that I know really wants to talk about how I might really be feeling. Surgery is over. I survived and the surgery was successful. No chemo or radiation needed! So, I keep it all inside. About 2 weeks ago I started to cry a few times just for no reason. We are blaming it all on not sleeping and anxiety -- which I think has a lot to do with it. However -- I never really cried over the fact I had uterine cancer nor really over the fear of surgery or the fact that I lost all of any hormones I had left and can't have HT due to the type of cancer I had. I am SO blessed that it was in the beginning stages and that there were no cancer cells in the ovaries, tubes, lymph nodes or vaginal wash and I feel I should just be rejoicing but, somehow, I haven't gotten there yet. I still feel like I am in shock. It is SOOOOO good to hear your stories! All of a sudden I feel like I am not all alone! Prayer and faith, meds, a counselor and this site should set me back firmly on my life's path. Thank YOU!!!

Hi Jane. So very glad to hear you are free of cancer!! When I was 27 I had trophoblastic disease ( from a molar pregnancy which turned nasty) and I was so strong while I was going through it but then all of a sudden whenever a cancer ad came on tv I would just start crying! This went on for years. Because I was over it and cancer free I felt I could never mention it again to anyone because they thought I was just attention seeking or something so I dealt with it on my own but the silliest things would set me off.
So glad you have your family's support now they just need to be understanding too and I really hope you recover well. There are some ladies on here who are really good at advice and support and there is always someone who is experiencing the same or similar things.
Take care

Much appreciated! Thank you!

Well my recovery time must be up according to my friends.
I am almost 6 weeks post op This past week I have bee dealing with intense pain in my lower left hip back and pelvis but with no bleeding. I am finding it extremely difficult to walk. But none of my friends knew this because I received not a single phone call or message this week. Of course when my husband and kids turned up to something without me they were all shocked to hear I was no good and having a bad time. They all said 'oh we thought she was better now'.
I am not really bitter - a little hurt maybe and yes I know I could have rung them but felt like I would be looking for sympathy and let's face if it's much nicer if someone rings you to see how you are. I just found it interesting and I will wait to see if all their promises to 'ring and see how she is later' turn out
In the mean time I am taking it easy at home but I will have to ring the hospital and see when I can go for a check up because I was doing better and now am in constant pain again.
Take care and have a good day

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Originally Posted by Jane N I just found this site yesterday and as I read this thread I was amazed. My husband, friends and family have been amazing BUT they thought after a week or two I should be back to doing everything as before. My stress has been so high before and after the surgery that I quit sleeping and now can't sleep during the day and have been normally getting only 1 to 2 hours of sleep at night. I think new meds will take care of this and my anxiety. Right now my husband and son and grandkids just want me back to being "normal." No one that I know really wants to talk about how I might really be feeling. Surgery is over. I survived and the surgery was successful. No chemo or radiation needed! So, I keep it all inside. About 2 weeks ago I started to cry a few times just for no reason. We are blaming it all on not sleeping and anxiety -- which I think has a lot to do with it. However -- I never really cried over the fact I had uterine cancer nor really over the fear of surgery or the fact that I lost all of any hormones I had left and can't have HT due to the type of cancer I had. I am SO blessed that it was in the beginning stages and that there were no cancer cells in the ovaries, tubes, lymph nodes or vaginal wash and I feel I should just be rejoicing but, somehow, I haven't gotten there yet. I still feel like I am in shock. It is SOOOOO good to hear your stories! All of a sudden I feel like I am not all alone! Prayer and faith, meds, a counselor and this site should set me back firmly on my life's path. Thank YOU!!!

I am SO happy that this post helped you in some way. I know it did me. MY FEELINGS are that we were so swept up in the surgery, the recovery, and the diagnosis, etc. that we just haven't had time to 'process' everything mentally and emotionally yet. Added to it all.. the lack of sleep... just compounds the problems. It is truly a ONE DAY AT AT TIME moment in our lives and we must be completely selfish, if that's what it takes, in order to heal ourselves in every sense of that word.

BlondeBuffy... I'm so glad you started this post... it's cathartic for many of us.

Thank you Moongoddess4. It has really helped me too. It's nice to know we are not alone