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Unread 06-23-2009, 01:26 PM
Need advise - No desire

Does anyone know of any OTC products that I can pick up at the pharmacy to help with this? I just have lost all desire for sex. Poor, poor DH! No arousal! Thanks!
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Unread 06-23-2009, 02:11 PM
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Don't do the drug route. You are still recovering! I don't know how old you are or which type of surgery you had. but intercourse is scary for those of us that got the vaginal cuff and know that others have had pain and bleeding, doesn't seem worth it. Your hubby needs to show you lots of tender love and care, be satisfied with cuddling and move into things slowly. be a good idea to have some lubricating jelly handy you will probably be dry, that does make it easier for you. No fireworks the first time out. My good friend had a TAH in Feb and she advises take it slow and easy.
Unread 06-23-2009, 10:56 PM
Re: Need advise - No desire

Hi Stickers!

Do you still have your ovaries? If not, you might want to check in with the Sisters who are undergoing HRT.

If you do, sometimes they can "go to sleep" for a bit after surgery and, again, this can be a side-effect. Mine "woke up" around week 5 and I found that my arousal-level went up as well.

You're still fairly early in your recovery, so try to have some patience with yourself. I find that if I pressure myself to have sex I shut down. There are certainly other ways to pleasure DH, so maybe you and he can have fun exploring those.

And definitely make sure you you have some lubricant on hand...that can be part of the fun as well!

Take you time and enjoy!

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