Now What?

Just did a post expressing similiar feelings, but from the other side of the empty feeling. (check out Vintage)
It is important to allow yourself to grieve. For many the uterus is just an organ, but for some of us, it is an important, even spiritual part of ourselves. I could no more call my uterus just "an organ" than I could call my mother just "a person".
Our society seems to think grieving is only for funerals. The reality is that grief accompanies ANY loss, even if the loss is beneficial.

I think you are right concerning the grieving. I never had children and although I am 49 it slammed the door. Know what I mean?

Dev,
YOu put that just perfectly!!!!I had lavh January 11th and now that I am beginning to feel better physically, I feel that it is time to deal with the emotional part of the issue-gone are parts of me! The uterus and the cervix-granted I am in my 40's and I have 2 beautiful healthy teenagers( i didn't say easy though...) and I don't really want more kids but I would have liked to be able to say I still could-now of course it is impossible!That makes me sad in a way...also it was 3 weeks to the day that I found out I had a large firbroid to having the surgery so it wasn't a whole lot of time to think and yes, this was the only option in my case and the right decision...
it is a grieving that must happen and part of me feels guilty for doing so because I am healthy and it could be worse so who am I to feel sorry for myself?

I was also feeling the same way you are when I thought about sex around 4-5 weeks out. I felt like nothing there. I didn't have sex for about the first two months and then we I did, I broke down crying in the middle of it. My husband was completly understanding, They say the first couple of times it not the same as before and thats what I felt. But now after a couple of times and I am 3 month out now, It feels alot better, And back to normal, My husband says he can't tell anything different. I was worried about that too. The best thing is no more periods and you can wear what ever you want all month. Don't worry I was too freakin out about sex thinking I was ruined, It takes time to heal emotionally and physically. I worried about everything to, it is amazing what goes threw your head healing from this surgery. All I can say is I am 3 months out and I feel wonderful now. Everything is about back to normal. And the best thing is no more Periods and can wear white pants every day if you want. Pamper yourself and take care...

Thank you....maybe a "normal" light at the end of the tunnel. You answered questions I was afraid to ask.

There is light at the end of tunnel I say that all the time too. LOL!!! Yesterday was your one month mark and you are on the road to recovery, I am glad I answered some of you questions that you were afraid to ask. Everyday it seems to get better for me and I hope it does for you too. take care