Sex After Surgery??

Hi all!! I'm new here, and for now just have one question...most of my questions are being answered with me digging through the posts already here!!
I am asking about the whole no sex for six weeks rule....I had a hysterectomy on 4-28-05 with just my uterus removed, and it was taken out vaginally. I dont know what that is called. It was supposed to be done laproscopically, but my uterus was too big, he just had to do it all vaginally. I also had a bladder sling put in at the same time. (stress incontinence)

Well, I kept my ovaries and cervix...and am still bleeding just a little. I was told no sex for 6 weeks. I am in no pain, and havent been even after the surgery. I know I cant have intercourse, until given the go ahead...but, when they say no sex, do they mean no nothing...not ANY KIND of sex, or do they mean just no penetration?

I just took "no sex for 6 weeks" at face value, but my husband says he thinks it just means no penetration...but, orgasm is ok, as long as there is no penetration of any kind. Does anyone know which applies!?

NEWSFLASH!

If your Dr took out your uterus thru the vagina.....you don't have a cervix! It goes out with uterus.

About the sex issue...you better call the Dr and get a translation for your hubby as each Dr makes his own post-op rules and they do vary somewhat.

I interpreted this to mean no intercourse...I fortunatedly was only told no intercourse for two weeks, but I did not have a bladder sling and I think the bladder concerns make it necessary to be careful a little longer. My DH did stimulate me to orgasm I think at 5 or 6 days post-op. I haven't had any problems as a result. I don't think there is anything you can do to your self as long as you aren't flailing you body around and haven't had any complications or excessive bleeding or healing troubles. Remember that I am not a health care professional, but this is my own experience if you do have concerns you may want to discuss this with your doctor.

Luludelane,

Not everyone who has a vaginal hysterectomy has their cervix removed. The cervix and the uterus can be separated.

You could check with your doctor about this, but outercourse is usually allowed. You need to be careful though, that you don't get carried away with the moment and forget the "nothing in vagina" rule.

(Generally speaking, women who have a vaginal hysterectomy also have their cervix removed. It would be quite difficult for the surgeon to remove the uterus with the cervix in the way.)

OMG OMG OMG. My cervix is gone?! Holy crap! I have a dr. appt thursday, but reading this forum leaves me with sooo many questions, it will be hard to wait!!
He never said he removed my cervix, could it be that he ASSUMED I figured he would?!
I am almost in tears here, I cant believe I am so uninformed to what happened to me!

As far as the sex thing...orgasm is what I am meaning...I just assumed i couldnt have anything.. and if not, its gonna be a looooong 6 weeks!! I'm just embarrased to ask the doc.

I certainly wouldnt be having any kind of penetration...I am NOT ready for that, but a little gentle fun would be nice.

Thanks girls, for answering, I was afraid my question was a little too much.

HI there. I had a TVH (total vaginal hysterectomy) I DID have my Cervix removed. MY Gyn said that when they do a Vaginal Hyster, it is USUALLY done with the removing of the Cervix.
Only your Dr would know if you have your Cervix or not.I would suggest you ask.
I would also ask about the sex thing.Don't be embarrased about it.It's your body!!!

Hi I'm new also. I had mine done on 20 Apr 05. I had a total one and they cut me. My Dr told me no sex for six weeks. I don't understand why if they went they cut me. She said that I would loss my drive ... I beg to differ. I think about sex and still get aroused even more now then when I was in pain everyday. I'm glad I had it done also.

Another note. No oral sex on you either. The mouth is full of germs and you don't want to get an infection.

I can't speak for everyone BUT....you will have sex w/o a cervix and my money's on the fact that you'll probably never know it's gone!!

I don't miss mine and can't tell a bit of difference EXCEPT there is NO PAIN now from the prolapsed uterus getting slammed about! ( sorry, but it's true!)

Granted it will take a bit of time for your body to get used to it's new furniture arrangement in there but 99% of the time people report an improvement in sex and life in general.

Don't let all that you read here scare you. Take it into the context of information. Most of the people who come here have problems---that doesnot mean that you will, and you probably won't.

Take deep breaths and don't freak your self out. Sit down and make a written list of your questions and call you Dr. Sometimes they do assume that you know certain things because you don't ask. It's not them being evasive or sneaky...but they do this every day and like most of us in our jobs...we assume things.