is this normal thinking

I'm there too. I have NO desire to ever be pregnant again and before this all happend my husband and I had decided that if we added to our family it would be through adoption. But, last week I saw a tiny baby and oh boy! I've had baby fever ever since and and now mourning the loss of my fertility. I keep thinking that maybe I could have just 1 more baby before calling it quits... I know it's not logical and not something I'd be feeling if the surgery wasn't happening, but the emotions still feel real and are still something I have get through. I think it's more about the choice being taken from me. Before, I could change my mind at any point and have a baby, but now I will no longer be able to make that choice. That's hard to deal with.

I am feeling sad about having this surgery too. I am 47 and never had kids and ok with that. I look at more as a loss of something that defined me as a woman and that I am now getting older. I definitely needed the surgery and do not regret it. It was either that or have cancer in the very near future so I chose the surgery. Eventually this shall pass, it is just too soon yet. Best Wishes!!

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Originally Posted by tniko79 I went to my appt yesterday and i feel better about my surgery but i still emotional. I teared up last night because i heard a baby cry and then during the night i started having anxiety, second thoughts and i was actually thinking what if my husband left me, i would never be able to give someone else children. Seriously what is wrong with me!? My husband isn't going any where and we both don't want anymore kids. Our family is complete. Anyone elses brain overthinking

Wow... I am feeling the same exact way right now. My surgery is the 22nd and each day it is getting closer I am getting more emotional. I am not nervous at all about the surgery. I am sad to be losing the possiblity of concieving another child. We have 2 boys (3 yrs and 6 months) and when I was preg with my second son we had decided then we were done. Then all my issues started after my second son was born. I am really struggling with this and I am glad to know this normal and there are other women struggling with these same thoughts. Hang in there we will be okay with this some day. Good Luck to you

I am 49, well past "baby making" age. When my husband had a vasectomy a number of years ago, I mourned the loss of "our" fertility, so much so that I thought about having him get it reversed. I got over it. Now, the same feelings again. I certainly don't want any more kids, I am old enough to be someone's gramma, and my kids are 21 and 18, so...but still, I feel the loss, and I haven't even had my surgery yet. I am very ready to be done with monthly periods, at 49, I am still having them regularly. Everyone tells me mourning our uteruses (or is it uterii plural lol) is normal. This too shall pass.

Aww thanks Curvaliscious!! I wlll be thinking of you as well and sending healing thoughts your way!!!! xo

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Originally Posted by AJS1983 Wow... I am feeling the same exact way right now. My surgery is the 22nd and each day it is getting closer I am getting more emotional. I am not nervous at all about the surgery. I am sad to be losing the possiblity of concieving another child. We have 2 boys (3 yrs and 6 months) and when I was preg with my second son we had decided then we were done. Then all my issues started after my second son was born. I am really struggling with this and I am glad to know this normal and there are other women struggling with these same thoughts. Hang in there we will be okay with this some day. Good Luck to you

Good luck to you too! Yes it will be ok. I am not scared about.going under either just never having the choice. i hope you have support system too. I couldn't be doing this if it wasn't for my husband being so strong for both of us

Thanks ladies!! Only 3 days left for me. My husband took me out Saturday night and that helped.

My op is for the 5th of march. I have had 7 pregnancies with 5 births, age range 24 years to 14 months. I am nearing my 44th birthday. My last baby was delivered via csection, i begged them to give me a hyst then, but they said no, all they could do was to tie my tubes. The weird thing is at the time I grieved that I would be unable to have any more children. I knew/ know I definately didnt want no more. Silly thing now is as I count the days till my op I am starting to feel depressed that I will never have the chance for another child. Crazy thing is I cant anyway as I have had a tubal. How silly am I??

I was having problems with anger. My hubby was very patient, surprising because he's generally not one for that. I finally decided that the uterus was keeping me from having the active life I used to have and as such it no longer held any value to me. Now I am not angry any longer.