13 days post op- still incontinence

First time i've posted since op.
could have gone better. i was in OR for 3.5hrs i was a mess.still have ovaries and tubes and this was a lifeline. and they obviously knicked or caterized my bladder as i had blood in urine or instead of urine for 3 days. blood clots wrong size cathaders put in. bladder infection
day 2- blood transfusion, sat in my own blood urine for 3 hours.
3 more days to figure out why i'm still not able to urinate on own incontinence wearing pads/ poise diapers . some control day 7- sent me home- they wanted to send me home with a cathader on day 5.
i still have no control
day 13- i now have extreme night sweats/ hot flashes during day and night started 2 days ago.
pain is manageable, more bladder, kidney pain than incision.
wondering if ovaries still will give mid cycle smurts. if this is the pain i'm experiencing.
on naproxen, iron pills, amoxi clav for bladder infection. stool softeners, if needed tylenoll 3.
not sleeping . geting up to go to br every 1.5hrs. trying to do too much and feeling it. incision is starting to itch at top of belly button driving my crazy sometimes. so the questionis will i fix myself or will i be facing medications or surgery to correct this problem. trading one problem for another.

Hi may1972,

Are you still leaking urine? Is it all the time or just when you need to go?

It is so hard to say what the pain is but most likely it is pain from the surgery. The hot flashes and night sweats indicate your ovaries are not yet functional.

First thing please stop trying to do so much and just rest. You should be getting up and walking around as much as your body allows but no housework!

THANKS MOLLY50
i still have incontinence, anytime anywhere AH RELIEF feeling. (like holding it for a long car ride then get to go and it's the most wonderful thing) yah, don't have that. i have to wear big think poise pads. doesn't matter if i'm sitting, lying, or standing it just dribbles all the time. am on antibodics but it doesn't seem tobe working. they put me on iv antibodics in hospital before i acquired bladder infection. i'm up at least 5 times a night, i can't get a good nights rest, i have to have a pad on bed for accidents. it's so embarrassing. will this ever go away? very hard not to do anything............ i am so bored!

Have they check you for a fistula? You might need to ask for a referral to a urologist if your surgeon can't help you.