In need of support...

I found out earlier this week that my surgery has been moved up to tomorrow, which is good...it's just that I am feeling so alone and scared! My "support group" has dwindled down to nothing--my two best friends and my sister are all out of town, my marriage fell apart about 6 months ago, and my job is now in jeopardy (cutbacks). I know people say God never gives you more than you can handle, but I think he has way overestimated me. <G> I've done nothing but cry this whole week (after the date got rescheduled), and I know it's the worst possible way to go into surgery--with this kind of demeanor--but I don't know how to pull out of it. Of course, I'm certain that everything that can go wrong, will, with the surgery...

Anyone have some words of advice for me?

TIA

Kerrie,

I know you feel it but you are not alone. I am lucky to have support but still feel alone. This site has been the only thing to get to this point. I go in on Tues. So many of the ladies can offer you so much advice. If you have questions on certain things go back to home page and go to search and type it in.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

((Karrie)))))),

I am sorry all of this is happening at one time .

Please take some deep breaths. I believe you will find the strength you need. Women usually do !!!!!!

I think you will find the light at the end of the tunnel coming closer with each passing day of recovery. The better you begin to feel physically, the better your spirit will become also.

I will have you in my prayers.

Take care and Best wishes for a great surgery and recovery,
Pamcat

I am too on the 16th and was scared to have the surgery. I now have a calmness about it all. I found out that if you asks and say what scares you the most you will feel better about it all.
I wish you all the luck in the world and everone here will be their for you if you need it. You can do this.........

Thanks, Rose and Pam. Rose, good point--even when you have friends around, if they haven't been through it it's hard for them to understand. I thought about calling my brother...alotta good that would do!! haha. Thank GOODNESS for HysterSisters!! Pam, thanks for the hug..I will focus on what you said about when I feel better physically I'll be better able to handle the other stuff! There is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it's not a train, right? Thanks again, girls. ((((((Hyster Sisters))))))

Eveyln, thanks so much for the kind words. Knowing that someone out there understands sure goes a long way!!

Hey, don't underestimate that brother of yours!

I can totally relate to what the others have said about being alone even with support. I was also fortunate to have tremendous support from my family. However, nobody could really understand what things were like from my perspective. This is where I found that, and I hope you do, too.

If this is necessary surgery, then know that you are doing the best possible thing you can do for yourself and whatever happens you will be able to deal with. Of course for the vast majority of women things go absolutely fine and things are better later than ever before.

Honey, hang in there. I'm in the same boat. You have to focus on your health right now. I lost my job on Friday, 11 days before surgery. I guess I still have ins. until July 1st. It's been a long weekend, but it's Sunday nite and I made it. Ask for family medical leave if you can. They can't give your job to someone else while you are gone. I should have done that earlier in the week. It's too late now. You won't heal very fast if you dwell on all of the negatives. As for friends and family.....I don't know. I have plenty of them, they just aren't very good help sometimes and that's ok.

Karrie,
I just wanted to say hello and good luck with your surgery. We will all be waiting to hear from you when you are well into your recovery.
I am so sorry that you have had to deal with some really tough issuses. I think there are many times in my life that I have been given more than I can handle, then I remember that God can handle anything!! He is in control of it all, just give your problems to Him and He will help you through the difficult times.
I will keep you in my prayers.

Hi, I too was scared and other than my DH, there was absolutely no support for me. This is a personal thing to go through and frankly it is not a easy surgery but there are a lot of us out there that have been there and done that and we support you. Hope everything goes well and if i had a was to visit you personally, I would do so after it is done.