please someone pick me up!!!!!!!

I guess I just need a little pick me . had to have a blood test and give a stool sample I know sounds gross and not happy about it. Just feeling so down and very short with anyone. I try to be happy but then I get cranky with everyone. I wake up in the morning feeling fairly good and say okay today is the day where I don't jump down someones throat but never the less it does. I just want to scream to my family you don't understand just because I don't have stiches and a big scar doesnt mean I didnt have surgery! I think maybe if I did it would be easier also for me because I forget and go 100 miles a minute and then can't understand why I feel so crappy. I am six and half weeks post op and keep hoping things will get better. Oh well I guess I just have to vent to someone who understands. I feel so useless right now and recently all I do is want to cry.

Hi bluemood I'm so sorry you're not feeling too good right now. You had an LAVH right? I know how it is when you don't have a big incision and everybody things you should be fine, but you're not fine yet... I had a TVH, nothing visible, and I remember my kids thought almost nothing had been done! Then one night they were giving me a hard time and I got bold with them (they are boys who were 8 and 12 at the time, and not particularly squeamish)... and I waited till they were in the room when I was on my computer and I nonchalantly pulled up www.pelvicfloor.com on the screen... they started asking all kinds of questions about what they were seeing and suddenly it dawned on them that yes, mom really did have major surgery and maybe she is not feeling too hot!

There is another good site that has great photos of an LAVH and other lap gyn procedures... you can check it out by looking in our Resources forum at this thread:

Laparascopic and Laparascopically Assisted Gynecological Procedures

This technique has worked on many a hubby who thought his wife was fully recovered at two weeks and ought to be out milking the cows or the urban equivalent.

Are you on any HRT? How is that working for you? Not being 100% healed can be stressful enough and cause you to feel tired and irritable on its own, but so can hormonal imbalance that is fairly common during the first couple of months post op. I would urge you to talk with your DR about how you are feeling both physically and emotionally.

And do be kind to yourself. Don't expect yourself to be 100% so soon after you've had major surgery. Many of us weren't, either. Things will get better in time.

s,
-Linda