husband is not around very much ...

due to work, overtime(due to the fact that i don't get paid sick leave) and job related class in orlando next week. surgery is the 21st and i won't see my hubby until maybe next thursday night sometime late. need to be at the castle at 6am. so here is my question... should i be happy or mad that my husband is not going to be around. he's not very senistive so i have warned him that he had better be nice to me post op.

Hi, I am new to this website. I to have busy husband. I too have a husband that is "not so sensitive". My husband does try, he is just not built that way. Men handle things in different ways than we do. I have cried many, many, days and nights, wondering why I did not have the sensitive, "cuddle with me", "hold me", etc. guy. I just had to realize not all men are the same. Mine may not be very sensitive to my needs all the time, but he works hard for my family. Maybe yours is the same?? Some women have men that are all over them and never work a day to support them, I have become thankful for the one I have. Don't go to hard on him, just try to think on his level. Hope this helps. Good luck to you.

Libby

Well my girlfriend and I have both married the "manly man" and at times crabbed that we did not have the sensitive guy until we met a few husbands like that. Then we realized neither of us could handle that sensitive guy. Kind of made me realize that I am not as sensitive either. However my manly man was shocked to see me in the hospital so that made a difference. I did not need him while I was in there but he sure pulled it together when I got home. The house was not perfect (never has been though!) and the food not exactly what I would have chosen, but it was nutritious. And he took messages but forgot to tell me. BUT I rested better without interruptions. Have him take a look at the site that shows operations - I think it is in the pre-op information here. If he will not be around at all, make food ahead and freeze it. Call in all the help you can get if you have children to deal with. Leave the housework and laundry for DH if you can't do anything else. But make sure you rest after!!! Best wishes to you!

I am so glad to hear that you to prefer the "manly man". I agree things may not go so smooth and perfectly with "sensivtively inclined" but all in all the job gets done. I have perfect faith in my man to wash the clothes (coloreds may go bleached, and whites may be turned to pink), cook the food (microwaved pizzas, frozen dinners), and bath and take care of the kids (he's really good with this). Let me be serious for a minute, my husband could run our household with no problem, he is a "manly man" with no problem doing my "housewife" job. He's the best!

Libby

My hubby isn't a total "manly" man....he likes to cuddle. I know that the house will be trashed and the kids will make their own lunches for school.

But I also know that he loves me and will do his best when he can.

Fairy