It's nice to see you again and hear you are doing so well. Sweetie, I can relate to the scar problem. I have a vertical from colon surgery and it's one foot long, a half inch wide and all keloid
I wanted to ask you what (if any) treatments you've tried for your scar? There are some newer options available now that weren't a year ago... maybe you could talk with a DR about them.
My surgeon first had me using Vitamin E cream on the scar several times a day for a few months. It did nothing although it felt nice.
Then he switched me to using those new scar treatment sheets that you can get at the drugstores. Band Aid and Curad make two of the major brands. They are white sheets of silicone that you cut to fit on your scar. They have a light adhesive (don't hurt coming off at all) and come with some stronger paper tape you can use if they don't stay on without it. The reason they work for many people is that they hold moisture in the scar and apply light pressure to it. I used them for three months but didn't see a great improvement.
Recently I saw a plastic surgeon to talk about my further options for treating this awful scar. He put me on Aldara, which is an immunosuppressive cream. It works by getting your tissues to stop reacting to themselves. At this point it's only FDA approved for treating vaginal warts
but some plastic surgeons are using it for scars and having good success with it. It comes in tiny single use packets, 12 in a box and is used every other day. It's very expensive if you have a big scar as I do, but I got the prescription written so that I can get two boxes for one copay. I've been using it for over a month now, and I find it is working better than anything else has so far. The scar has flattened some and is maybe two shades lighter in color than it was. The DR wants me to use it for six months and then we'll evaluate where to go from there... cortisone injections are the next option and that's about it.
In theory, I agree with (((casualcard))), that the 'right' guy won't care about your scar. But being a single person myself, I can understand completely how you feel about looking at the scar. Mine bothers me, too ... probably far more than it would bother a partner, but it affects my self-image negatively so I want to take care of it if I can.
Maybe you could get a referral by your DR to a plastic surgeon and ask what options they have for treating a keloid scar? Aldara might be something you could try, too. If you do, I hope it works for you!