OK, now DH is being a jerk too!

I wonder if they just cant keep up the help for the full 6 weeks. I 16 days postop & I think DH is tired of it all...being a big baby & joking at my expense. He has been tremendously helpful, but it has dwindled now.

At this moment, he just went and jumped in the shower w/o even telling me & left the baby in the highchair for me to lift out (the baby weighs about 30#).



Anyway, I just had to gripe. I am so glad I have a couple more days to myself since he goes to work today & tomorrow & the kids go the CC.

even though I do have to go to the Dr today to get repacked

I'm sorry things aren't going so hot for you at home. I think our DH are so used to us being wonder women that they tend to think we should be up and on our feet after a week. Sit and explain to him how painful it still is for you and how you appreciate all of the care, concern and help he's given you and how you still need it in order to recover completely and not have any problems. It might help him if you do this so he totally understands the situation.

Yeah, my husband went through a bit of this insensitivity and frustration with recovery time. Then suddenly one day it "hit him" and he wound up in tears. We didn't have that talk that Cwbys recommended, because he came to the realization on his own before I felt the need to spell it out for him.

Since then he's been wonderful again!

NO MORE lifting your 30# darling! It won't hurt the baby to sit in the highchair until DH 'rescues him/her from such awful torture as having to sit in the highchair!'

Lots of love,
=e

I'm so sorry your husband is having a hard time. Mine has been so good. Asks ALOT of questions. I have set the pace for all my recovery. Doc says if it hurts don't do it. I have a 20# grandaughter who I have trouble lifting. Be very careful. I talk about every ache and pain so hubby is fully informed. He has been very helpful through everything. I also had alot of help during the first few weeks after surgery. But the most difficult thing I realized was that no one does my work like I do. Before surgery I don't think my husband remembered where he installed all the appliances. Now he does laundry and loads the dishwasher. ( not the way I do) But nonetheless the work has been getting done. Also I brought all the info I could find on hyst and menopause for him to read. He says he can't believe that they make a mag dedicated to menopause. But read as much as he could. I feel very fortunate to have so much love and support from everyone but especially from him. Ask your hubby how he would feel if half his innards were removed. And his hormones were on the floor. I know most men in my experience are complainers when they have a stuffy nose. Much less going through what you have. Just a thought...Much love

Poor DH's try to help, but then they either get tired of helping, or forget, or get lazy, or just assume you should be able to do more by now. Whatever the reason, I'm not sure, but I think they all do it! I remember mine did too. And my Son did the same thing! Anyway, was he there with you when the nurses explained about not lifting more than 10 lbs? If he was remind him, if not, maybe you should have the nurse from the doctors office talk to him and explain what could happen if you do. Does he want you to end up back in the hospital and have to delay your recooperation, thus having to help out for a longer period of time? I'm sure he probably isn't thinking of the long term, maybe just a reminder will help. Good luck!