New & running out of choices

First off--thanks to all the HysterSisters who started this website.

I have an enlarged uterous and I have a couple of fibroids. I've been going to my GYN regularly and taking birthcontrol to help control the pain & bleeding during my "special" week each month. But--it is not working as well as it did before. I feel like I am running out of room in my tummy. It is effecting everything I do in my life. My GYN said that when I get to this point, it might be time to go to the castle. [I love the way ya'll put that.]

I'm in my mid 30's. My biological mother had a hyster & she hated what it did to her life. These two things makes me very nervous. I'm not close to my biological mother [she had hers years ago. Medicine has improved since then.]

I feel so unsure about making the decision to go for it--but I can't function the way I use to. I feel like there are no more choices for me to look into. I'm scared that making the choice will ruin my life like it did to my biological mother. I can't talk to my family about this because I'm the one that holds the family together and I need to keep smiling for them.

Don't worry about everyone else, this is your decision and only yours. Whatever you choose, you have to also the choose the consequences of your action or inaction. I made my choice after trying other options first, even though they were unsuccessful at least I attempted them. At that point I decided my quality of life so far off base, that I needed to proceed with the next step.

I've had my hysterectomy and now trying to read up on hormones. I won't be starting them until the end of July or so, but I want to be well informed so I'm making what I believe to be the best choice for me and my quality of life. My doctor had advised me to try and wait six months for hormones for any remaining endo to shrivel up and die off. Got my fingers crossed that this does the trick.

Good luck on whatever you decide.

Dear Dimples,
I see why you don't want to talk to your family about these feelings -- come here and talk to us, your "sisters" instead! I am so grateful for this website and for all who are involved.

As you said, medicine has vastly improved over the years. I'm sorry to hear that your bio-mom feels that her hyst ruined her life. Mine has SAVED mine! I don't regret it at ALL.

Feel free to come here and 'vent' everything you've had to keep in, and ask lots of questions.

Best wishes,
=e

It's nice to hear from the Princesses about this subject--thank you. It feels good to talk here. Today I am going back to my Dr to see where they want me to go from here. It is going to hurt to be examined. But hopefully I'll get more of my questions answered. Before, having a hyster was the last thing in the world I wanted to do, but now I think a little differently. Hopefully I'll be able to make my way through the Hormone Jungle and find the right path for me if it comes to that. My bio-mother did not take that route from what I remember. Neither did my adopted mom. At least I have this website to help me get some directon and hear from real women [Princesses]!

I went to the dr and it was agreed that I should visit the castle. All I have to do now is set the date. My hubby took me out to a nice lunch after the appointment to treat me. Now I need to plan how work is going to go, my Sunday school class, house work, kids, etc. I cried a little but now I need to plan.

I have a question, How did it ruin her life? Did she feel she was worst off??

To put it bluntly, my bio-mother no longer wanted a sex life. She hated sex after she had a complete hyster [everything had to go.] She 1st had an ovary removed because of a cyst. The doctor did not do a good job [this was over in Europe many moons ago.] He did not get everything so when they went back in there they had to remove it all. That is all that she will tell me.

My adopted mom felt similarly, but she had cancer and had everything removed.

I won't have to go thru all that, I only need to have my uterous removed. I'll keep both ovaries and cervix. My dr's are leading me to believe that I will have a better experience and my life will greatly improve. I hope so but it is still hard to believe that this is happening to me. Now, I need to let my kids know. This is something that they will have to note as their family medical history.

BIG HUGS TO YOU!!!
WHY DID YOU'RE MOTHER FEEL THAT IT HAD RUINED HER LIFE? HAVE YOU THOUGHT OF MYOMECTOMY? ITS AN OPTION FOR SOME , IF YOU WANT TO CONINUE HAVING CHILDREN IT MAY BE A POSSIBILITY, THERE ARE ALOT OF ALTERNATIVES, IT JUST DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH.

BARBIE

Welcome, and I'm glad you found Hystersisters! One thing you'll find out here is how different we all are. Just because your bio mom had a bad experience doesn't mean you will. I've been there with not wanting a sex life afterwards and it was because my hormones were so messed up. Took some time but eventually got them balanced and all is well again. If you need that kind of help it is available. Since you will be keeping your ovaries you probably won't need any hormone replacement and that's great!

I've never regretted my decision to have this surgery. Hopefully your surgery will solve a lot of your problems and you'll be glad you did it, too!

Keep reading, learning and posting!

s

No more kids for me. I am happy with what I have. Between me and my other half, we have just enough hands to handle them.

My bio-mother told me what I have already posted and she won't talk about it any more. We do not have a close relationship, and english is her second language. I wish she would talk with me more. Maybe that would help me feel a little better about what I have to do.