prayers needed

this morning Jeremy, my 16yr old really chewed me out for continuing to homeschool his 15 year old sister Melody. Two years ago i let my Jeremy go to a public highschool 30 minutes away He really wanted to go there, because their marching band is wonderful. This school is also near our church and in order for him to transfer I had to sigh a paper giving legal guardianship of him to a friend that is in the dsitrict. He does stay at this home once a week, so technically does lives there. At the time I signed this paper I was very sick, and my husband promised we woul;d be moved in 3 or 4 months to this district, but we never moved and he no longer want to move.
I do not want to give legal guardianship of my daughter to anyone, can't bear the thought. She has a very active social life with church youth group. She goes on snow trips, retreats, hiking, Mexico to build a home and Oregon, she is fundraising to go to Poland and Germany in 2005. She also plays soccer. But as my son hotly pointed out, she is only with church friends, and I am keeping her from the larger high school world. Sometimes she says she would like to go the public school, but mostly she seems happy, She sees her friends every weekend and after school, is on the phone and on line with them every night,
She encourages other teens who are tempted in areas of chastity, and gave a beautiful pro liofe talk to the church a few months ago. but yes, I am sheltering her from friends that would weaken her faith.
Jeremy's faith is very weak, because he is very close to his dad who is not a christian. Jim and I have been married 27 years and he is a good man, but sees no need for baptism, or has never prayed with me. Jeremy goes to church and retreats only because he is the drummer. and Jim goes only to hear Jeremy drum.
They make me feel selfish and stupid for have any belief or plan that contradicts their way of thinking. They make me feel selfish for being alive sometimes, as if I am always holding them back, narrowing their horizons. Today when Jeremy hurled those harsh words, a sob and a scream welled up like a painful knot in my throat. It hurts to talk, please pray that I will get over this depression and make the right choice for my daughter.

Debbie,
I am so sorry that your son lashed out at you like that, You are doing a wonderful job at raising your DD, she sounds like she is a beautiful person...must get that from her MomShe seems to be well adjusted in her lifestyle,

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They make me feel selfish for being alive sometimes, as if I am always holding them back, narrowing their horizons.

I disagree, I know it doesn't feel that way right now, Imo, you are teaching them and instructing them in the right way to go. You are not selfish by any means, you sound like you enjoy seeing them move forward. I have read your posts about how you give to others, even though you are sick. God loves you for loving your children.



Heavenly Father, we lift up Debbie to you, she has had a confrontation with her teenage son, about his sister Melody, she has loved and nourished him throughout the years, soften his heart, make him realize how much he has hurt his Mom, let him know his Mom only want what's best for him and his sister, and instead of yelling, let him approach his Mom in a loving manner. Give Debbie strength, courage to endure this recent outburst from her son who she loves so much. Hold Debbie in your powerful arms, touch her heavy heart. lift her spirits, guide her mind and heart in the right direction, show Debbie the answer, let this whole issue be resolved quickly and smoothly. Please be with her, as she makes decisions for her children Melody and Jeremy, let this family love remain and not be destroyed in your gracious name. Amen.


s Debbie, May God walk with you and hold your hand through this.

I agree with Shirley, you are teaching your daughter well, and you should not be made to feel selfish for that. My DH was not religious at all, until we had marital problems, and then he (on his own, I might add) came to understand my deep faith in God, and now has totally committed himself also. I am so thankful for that. I am praying that your family has that same transformation. You are doing great! You sound like an awesome Mom, and your kids are lucky to have you! s

Marta

Hi Debbie, It must be difficult for you to maintain your faith at times in this type of situation. Really, shouldn't the decision be up to your daughter as well? If she is happy, has friends and is involved in activities, what is the problem? I don't have children, but have neices and nephews who have gotten involved in everything they shouldn't. I think the sheltering is preferable to that. I'm sorry that you are going through this along with everything else you have to contend with.