Just adding to the stress

My brother called to check on me tonight and ask if I had heard from our grandparents. He thought I had and he had not because of him changing his name back to his bio fathers name. Long story but he was adopted by my father when he was 4 and did not know he was adopted till he was 15 and found his bio father when he was 27.

Any way back to the point. My gandparents and most of my fathers family live in Denver Colorado. I live in Arkansas. Anyway my grandmother has fallen and broke her hip on 10-27 and had surgery on 10-29. Nither my bother or I had been told about this. Today my bother got an email from my aunt which was a copy that she sent to many people telling them thank you for the prayers and cards ect...But, not anything personal to tell us that grandma had been hurt for nearly a month! I have been calling and have not been able to get ahold of her and just thought she had been at the nursing home with my grandfather. Well, she has but not visiting but living! I am so mad at my dad who lived with her why did he not pick up the phone and call his kids and tell them what was going on...well that is another story the only reason we ever keep in touch is because of grandma...I am so scatterbrain right now I want to go to denver and see her because I can't even get her by phone at the nursing center...I have tried!!! But, if I am going to have this hyst on wed there is no time....

sorry I am unloading this on you guys! Just don't have anyones else.

I love my grandma and this HURTS!!

Steph,

I feel for you that must be totally frustrating when your hands are tied. Just a thought you could write a letter and send it there or if the nursing home had a fax machine you could ask your questions that way too.

I'm having a TAH/BSO tomorrow morning 11/13 at 7:30 am. I have to be there by 6:00 am. I have to read all my papers yet from the hospital, pack, pay bills and do the enema thing, yuk. Well good luck to you on Wed. and your grandmother too.

mls (Mary)

Steph,
Mary had a good idea about writing or faxing to your grandmother. I do the majority of my work in several different NH's in Texas, and each of them have different policies. You might try calling the nurse's station and asking if there is a time when your grandmother is up, or would they be able to get her up if you called back at a specific time. If the answer to either of these questions is yes, then ask if it would be possible to speak with her briefly on the phone at the nurse's station. You may need to let them know who you are, where you are, and why you are unable to appear in person,... but it might be worth a try. Anyway, keep your spirit positive. Your grandmother is doing her recuperation just as you will soon be doing yours. Best wishes.
Dee

Hi Steph:

Sorry to hear about this - couldn't have come at a worse time. Try to make peace with this for YOUR sake -you don't need to be overly stressed at this time. I pray that you consider praying for your father at this time. This accomplishes two things: you put the problem in God's Hands, who is the only one who can resolve this - and it's hard to have negative feelings for someone when you pray God's best for them. You know, sometimes men don't deal with situations like this too well - who knows what was going on in his mind??? Anyway, I hope that you will n ow be able to tell your grandmother that you love her and that you didn't know what was going on with her. I bet that will make you feel a lot better, too. Keep trusting God and everything will work out.

Much love and blessings.

I got to talk to my grandmother today! I guess she is doing fine but did not sound like her self! I was just happy to hear her voice. I got to tell her how much I loved her

I still do not like how my dad done us kids but, guess I learned that my calls to check on her are very importian and not to take anything for granted! I also learned do not assume anything and when I can't get her to make all the noise I can till I find out where she is. I now also have the address to the nursing home she is at and am going to sit down tonight and write her a nice long letter. I just can't tell you how happy I am to have got to hear her voice

But, I still want to sit down and cry about this whole thing!