Eating too much

I have been eating everything I see out of boredom and I have gained 3lbs. I am a weight watchers member and I feel like this surgery has set me back. I am a slow loser anyway and this did not help. I am also so tired of being in the house but too tired to leave, even though I can't afford it I think I will be home for a while. But I can't seem to stop eating. Thank God the pain has calm down some. I only have pain at night. I feel like I will never get this weight off of me. My mother-in-law sent some pic. she took memorial day. Oh My God, I looked like a blob. I tried to justify a little of it but the truth is I looked horrible. I will be so glad when I can get back to normal. Hopefully I will be shedding some pounds. I'm sorry, a little depressed today and I still have my ovaries.

Sorry your feeling down. Just remember that soon you will be better that is why you had the surgery. Try to focus on something else then food. Are you eatting because your hungry or are you eatting because of how you feel? Can you talk with someone with your weight watchers group to help you? I know what you mean about feeling depressed. Can you at least walk out the front door and take a few steps outside? Can someone at least take you out for a short drive? It helped me just to get out a few minutes.

Reality check, my dear

I know it's discouraging to feel the way you do. I have struggled with weight for my entire life. (no, not 15 pounds up and down, 60 pounds or more....) What helps for me is to try to look at "The Big Picture" - as a weight watcher, you must have one of those little booklets you keep track of your weight in, right? (yep, been there, done that) Over the course of a year, how has it been? In the next week, month, year, years, where do you hope to be? In the scheme of things, how bad is this 3 pounds. Really.

I don't know about you, but I remember gaining and losing up to 3 pounds simply due to menstrual water weight.

You will not feel this way forever. You are recovering. Walk a little more each day. Laugh as much as possible - even at yourself. And - one more time - you will not feel this way forever. AND even if you (deep breath now..) gain 10 pounds (okay, let it out) it is NOT the end of the world. You are recovering from major surgery. Be kind to yourself!

Dear 2Kind,
I agree with the other sisters, walk out the door, get someone to drive you to lunch, or something.

My friend has taken me to Wal-Mart to get a pedicure the first week. It really made me feel better (especially the massaging chair I sat in while my feet were being done). The second week she took me to the makeup counter at a department store to get a makeover. I got several compliments afterward and that made me feel better and encouraged me to groom myself better.

Even with those breaks, I still feel depressed and am angry with myself since the pain is better. I too am going nuts at home. It's almost 3 weeks since my surgery, and I can't seem to get into a routine with walking. I know that it would make me feel better, but instead, I take another nap. Forget weighing this is not the time for me to diet.

I was resentful that my husband bought a puppy right before I had surgery (he picked him up from the breeder the night of my surgery). I felt that he was taking advantage of my having to be home & presuming that I would housetrain it for him.

Freckle Belly Two-Spot has actually been a blessing in forcing me to go out into the backyard several times a day. Also, he makes me think about what's best for someone other than me. But, when he is too rambunctious, I admit to putting him in his crate until he settles down. (He's adorable, but I don't want my husband to know that I've fallen for him!)

I'm rambling, sorry, but I'm feeling lonely & isolated. You're not alone.

Thanks for all the support. I have been out but as soon as I come in I reached for the frig. I guess I am whining a little. I just got back from my ww meeting and I gained another pound. I feel like I am going backwards. My husband has gotten a lot better though so I am grateful for that. I went to walmart the other day and got so tired I had to sit down. I just thought by this time I would at least feel like going to my favorite place. I am going to try to do better this week.

2kind - I am 10 days away from my surgery date and I gained 5 lbs and beat myself up for 2 weeks about it. I understand! I have no excuse right now except I am nervous and anxious, therefore, I eat. You really need calories to heal so try, try, try to go easy on yourself and realize you are in recovery mode. You (and soon, me) have bigger things to worry about than the pounds we gain. I am going to put my scales away for one month after surgery. I owe it to myself - and you owe it to yourself, to concentrate on healing! I am worth it and so are you!
Good luck dear.

Diana

2kind ~ All of the advice here is wonderful... for me, just to be outside on the deck, inhaling the fresh air and feeling the breeze caress my skin, helps uplift my spirits. Before my surgery, I had an insatiable sweet tooth. Of course, it's still there, but I have found that my focus has shifted to eating healthy foods that will help my recovery. I treat myself like I am in a luxurious spa. I get to rest and read... this is my time to be introspective. So it seems natural (since this is not my normal life) to eat differently. I'm eating a salad each day... I use a mix of prepackaged spring greens and sprinkle honey roasted sesame seeds and dried cranberries on it and toss it with olive oil and balsamic vinegairette. I slice up skinned apples into thin slivers and sprinkle cinamon sugar on them. I each jello with a dash of whipped cream. I cut up berries ('tis the season) and eat them plain, or with a little whipped cream. All are healthy, but with a naughty twist

Get creative. If you need to eat, try to think of different healthy things that you will still enjoy. And, like icare4bunnies said, this is not the time to be worried about the scale. This is your time to heal. Best wishes to you!

Big s ~ Clementine

ohh, Clementine, I want to come to your house!! Sounds wonderful!!

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I dislike the term "going backwards" when talking about weight loss. Life is a learning experience, and so although it can be compared with a journey, you simply can't go backwards - the road you came on changes with every step. Unless you get amnesia and forget everything past a certain point in time, you are continually growing and moving forward.

2kind: take some advice that several weight loss gurus have given:

Create a fail-safe home!! Get rid of all food that is on the "bad for you list" and tell the loved ones who occupy your space with you that if they love you, if they love themselves, they will comply with it. If you go to the fridge after exercise, fill that fridge with fruits and vegetables. If you go to the cabinet, fill it with pretzels (if they are not a binge food) microwave popcorn, canned fruit and veggies.

I remember a phrase in weight watchers from when I was there:
"Failing to Plan is Planning to Fail"

Aim for good health, not lower numbers. The lower numbers may come as a side effect when you are striving for good health!!

Oh, and one guru doesn't call it losing weight, he calls it relinquishing weight - a different way of looking at it, isn't it?

I have been fortunate so far - since my surgery, I have not been as hungry. I have not felt like bingeing (I over-ate once and was so uncomfortable that I was sick beyond what I was before surgery).

I'm not dropping weight left and right - I lost 20 pounds, and it's kind of hung there. I think having to fast before surgery and not eating much in the days following shifts our metabolism to starvation mode

I'm just happy to be feeling so much better than I did before and just after surgery!!