Hang In There Everyone!

I just really feel for all of you who are scared, thinking of canceling and trying to get so many things done. I felt like I was going to an execution, too!
If you had a diseased gallbladder or appendix, wouldn't you want it out?
Why is it so different for those of us with diseased uteruses?
Two days before mine, I was sitting outside (we were putting tile in the house, of all things) and I was really worrying. The lady next door said "hi" across the fence and I blurted out that I was going in for a hysterectomy soon (she is a nurse, after all). She said she had one 20 some odd years ago and that her only regret is that she wished she had done it sooner! I'm 5 weeks post op now and already feel the same way (and I never did have children).
So, decide what REALLY needs to be done before your surgery. No one is going to eat the frozen food anyway, and laundry and home renovations can wait.
You are not going to be totally incapacitated for 6 weeks! I think that's what I didn't really understand. I thought I'd be in a coma or something for 6 weeks. I was walking around the block within days.
But you should refrain from doing most household chores because they require lifting (oh darn).
Think of it as a vacation from responsibilities! Someone here once mentioned having a Boot the Ute party -- what a great idea!
Spend as much time as you can on this site to stay informed. Trust your instincts in making the decision to have this surgery in the first place.
Good luck to all,
BeckyN (busy fingers today)

Thank you so much. The nerves are getting a little out of control over here. You were putting in tile ? We just moved a week ago and have subs still tromping around doing things. The lunatic cleaning service the builder hired to clean the house before we moved in may have permanently damanged the finish on all the flooring and that may have to all be replaced so I cannot unpack anything that goes into a the breakfront, the kids rooms, and a few other places(thank goodness we have lots of carpeting in many rooms)-- so I am feeling very unsettled. But, hey, I have a good excuse not to unpack many boxes now and also after surgery-- it will look like we just moved in for much longer than I had originally anticipated. Somehow, though, it will all get put away eventually.

My parents visit two weeks after surgery and will be here for Christmas. My mom is trying to "make plans" for their visit and I don't know what shape I'll be in. She has never been a considerate person and I dread the visit, but I want to see my dad (he has terminal cancer but is in remission at the moment), so she comes with the package. She actually said last night, "gee maybe there is a baby inside you" and then she laughed. I could not even speak I was so upset. I am sorry for complaining. But, who needs this ???!!! I think no matter what shape I am in, I will need to lie down A LOT !!!

I'll stop now. Just wanted to thank you so much for all of the support. I couldn't get through this without all of you.

Thanks Becky

Posts like yours really help us LIW

I know it's the right thing to do - it's the waiting and the tricks it plays on our minds. I agree that the recuperation is probably the most feared - the thought of being useless terrifies me - however I'm trying to look at it that a)I'm still getting paid b) I'll save a fortune on petrol and c) I'm getting to spend Christmas with my DH and kids and most importantly - d) I'm going on holiday to Gran Canaria on 1 March - and I'm not going to be plagued with finding a bathroom!

Glad I could help!
The worst part about recovery is the boredom!
Sharon from Naples, e-mail me at rnee@earthlink.net any time. I'll help you think of ways to entertain the parents!
You could always send them to look for alligators in the Everglades!
Becky

Becky, many thanks for the laughs. You are very refreshing! Send me an invitation I will be glad to attend the boot the uterus party. I think I am loosing my mind with all of this. I am having my last period and somehow I have managed to buy three, count them three boxes of kotex. I just dont know where my mind has gone. I think it has taken a leave of absence. lol I am sure I will be able to use them during recovery, who knows!
I am so glad to hear you are doing well and your fears of coma have diminished.lol
sdk12, I do feel for you. My mother in law is the same as your mother from what you describe. I can only hope she gets the flu or something for the holidays and has to stay home. I know that sounds awful, but this is a woman who believes no one can aile as much as she and there is no surgery that can be as bad as the ones she has been through.. ( All cosmetic) It really is sad when other women cannot comprehend the pain that we will be in. Kind of hard to expect men to do it when other women wont. I guess you just have to go through it to understand. Anyway, hang in there. WE are strong women and we can conquer anything if we can conquer female problems. Big Hugs to all

Thanks. I am a strong person, but even I have my limits. This is such a hard time. I am losing my mind I have so much to do. I am trying not to dwell on the unpleasantness of my mom (but it is hard not to think about it).

Now I will focus on finalizing preparations as best I can. I started making lists and I think that way I can keep track of what I am arranging (and my husband will have it all in writing-- who is bringing food when, who is picking the kids up from school...) I am trying to have everything organized by Friday afternoon so that the weekend can be "fun" for the kids. Not sure what to plan yet, but want to do some special thing that I won't be able to do for a while after the surgery. Maybe I'll take them to the mall-- I won't be driving or walking that much for a while and they could see Santa. The rest of the weekend I think I will play games with them at home and just try and give them some "quality" time !

Thanks everyone for helping me stop going bonkers.

BeckyN, if you e-mailed me, I accidentally deleted it. I have truly lost my fine motor skills in addition to my mind!

Becky Thank You!!!!

Just what I needed to read the night before I leave for the castle. I love your sense of humor.

Its amazing how our minds go just before the big day.