different person?

Hi everyone it has been a while since i wrote, with my husbands derployment and taking care of my four kids time is in short supply..I was wanting to see if anyone else out there feels like a totally different person since their hyst.? It really stinks.. My emotions r constantly messed up Still experoance pain in lower abdomin often,Its like after the hyst. i became someone different.... i mean i am not unhappy all the time but alot of the time... i am on climara patch..but i still have to take prozac just to keep my emotions from getting out of control will i have to always take proxacv? any way i could contnue in this pity part i am having but just wondering if i am ther only one like this? i read so much about about how happy everyone is after their hyst. is anyone as unhappy about theirs as i am?

sry this is not more postive but just needed to get this out....

Your not the only one that feels they are unhappy after there hysteretomy. I feel like I am a different person. My husband REALLY feels like I am a different person. I too still experience pain in my lower ab and dr said that is normal.

I am trying not to be put on estrogen but I did give in and now I am taking Remifemin just to help with the hot flashes and the mood swings.

I care nothing about my hubby since my surgery. I honestly think it started before but now I really have NO feelings for him.

So again your not alone.
cward

Hi

I'm sorry you are having problems. Some of us are better than ever after surgery and others just don't feel the same.

When my hormones were way out of balance I wasn't myself either. It was quite disturbing that my libido/drive/response were gone! From all the reading I've done on this site and off I knew there had to be something out there that could help me, too. With a referral from my doctor to a compounding pharmacist I started my journey to hormone balance. It's definitely a balancing act even when working with someone knowledgeable about HRT!

My right mix of hormones includes estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. I've had them tweaked several times because my needs have changed over time. Again, working with someone knowledgeable is key.

If you aren't getting the help you need from your doctor, find another doctor. To find a doctor knowledgeable about prescribing hormones, you can find a compounding pharmacist and ask which doctors use their services. Look in your phone book or use this Compounding Pharmacy Locator.

I hope this helps!

s

Hi Jamie!

If you are unhappy most of the time, despite being on anti-depression medication, I think you should tell your doctor. Perhaps your Prozac needs to be adjusted, or you may need to try a different SSRI. I have a mood disorder that began at the time I had my hyst, and although my HRT helped me with other surgical menopause symptoms like hot flashes, it did not conquer my anxiety and insomnia.

Please tell your doctor the emotions you are experiencing. You should not have to endure lingering unhappiness. You deserve to be the best "you" that you can be!

Many s and Best Wishes to You!

I most definately am a differant person...and Im always sick now too.Weakened immunity.My Drs said from having an early hysterectomy at 27 it burned out my Adrenals/Thyroid.
I am a more nervous person,less confidance (due to body changes,loss of libido,aches & pains)
I have a bigger waist now than hips!
My body has changed dramatically.
My family has noticed the changes & my husband...they feel hopeless.
All I can do is still try to balance my body.The help of this site has helped me tremendously.
Here I dont feel alone.In the outside world I have felt so differant from girls my age.
I will not tell nobody I had a hysterectomy,they would not understand.
My mom had one & didn't experience the misery I did..she said probaly because I never had kids & went through hormone changes..Hysterectomy WHAM!!!! The sudden hormone changes put my mind & body into shock..that was back in 1994.
If you find the rite Dr who knows their stuff & will be patient with you & that you feel comfortable with ...there is hope of finding YOU.

Good Luck!!! Deedee

My personality is completely different.
I never really exuded self-confidence before, but now I have absolutely none.

And Deedee - I don't tell anyone about my surgery either. I am only a few years older than you, and I feel different from other women my age also.
My mother gave me the same helpful information about her hyst. as yours did. She was older and kept her ovaries. Yeah. Same situation. (((heavy sarcasm)))) Just so you know. I had 3 kids and still had the same problems you did. I love her to bits - she is my best friend, but she just doesn't understand.

jamme:
I will be unhappy about my hyst. until the day I die, but I have finally got to the point where I am just going to try to make the best of a bad situation. And, even so, sometimes I just have to feel sorry for myself for a while. I am entitled to that, I figure.

Cheers!
canuck

This is the first time I have visited this site, so please give me a nudge if I say something not quite right. Reading your message has made me realize that there are other women out there with the same problems I have. The only thing is I have tried everything, hormone patches, pills, compound hormones, shots testosterone, delestrogen, premarin, estratest, trieste in various dosages etc. Over the counter hot flash remedies and nothing works. I wake up in the night wet, get wet during the day on and off. Currently I take Wellbutrin and Celexa and I am still not the person I was two years ago. My Gyni has suggested I see an Internal Medicine Dr., but I have to wait another month to get an appointment. I do feel better knowing that I am not alone. Is there anyone out there who may have any other suggestions!?

Thank you

Hi Canuk,
Have you tried any NHRT?

Hi Onellie,

Ok boy ..yes you have tried alot of stuff!!
May I ask what your downfalls were with these hormones...they dsidn't help at all??? Was it side effects that made you stop?

My guess is WE NEED TO MAKE OUR ADRENALS STRONG TO MAKE HORMONES FOR US.....Im getting a good ADRENAL SUPPORT.


LOVE Deedee

Hi,
I was glad to read that others out there feel like a different person post hyst. I did too, and my husband (now ex-husband) said the same thing. I thought that he was crazy when he would tell me that I was different. I was alot more emotional after my surgery, so I would express my feelings and opinions much more. I realized about a year after my surgery that I wasn't happy with him anymore, and ended up divorced. We tried counseling, but in the end realized that we were better off as friends. My counselor told me in front of my ex that even though it didn't seem like a good situation at the time, my expressing my emotions would make both of our lives better in the long run. So rather than hold everything in and wait and cry when he was gone, I learned to tell him what I felt (good and bad) but with no arguing. We ended up learning alot about each other, and even though we divorced we are still friends. I was a very confident person prior to surgery, had some really strange feelings in the few months after, and decided to take control of these feelings before they ruined who I was, it is possible, even if you think it's not. I didn't take any type of anti-depressent, although my doc suggested it, (I was hard- headed). I thought that it would mask my true feelings and then I would really be in trouble. So I guess what I am trying to say, is yes you are a different person, but that can be a good thing too. I was much more of a tomboyish hang out with the guys kind of person with no girl friends at all, since my surgery (and personality change)... I have a totally new group of friends that includes lots of females. I think that your surgery can make you more aware of your surroundings, and how you see them affects your life in a way you never knew. I had the sad, negative, nothing seemed right, outlook until I realized that this wasn't my fault and that I wasn't alone, and that my body and mind have to work together to make my life worth living. I asked for help from my doctors, and I've learned that if they're not giving me the results I need, it's okay to switch to a new doctor. There are plenty of them out there.... keep trying... I am going to a new one next week. By learning not to fear communicating with those around me, and learning to live for ME, I have my confidence back... better than ever! I wish you good luck, I will keep you in my thoughts, just don't give up!

I think we are all different after our surgery. My husband swears that I'm a different person - some good, some bad. Since I had my surgery, I have a VERY hard time keeping my mouth shut. Seems like I want to defend every living thing just to speak my mind. Sometimes I feel like I'm ten foot tall and bullet proof. It's rather kind of funny, especially since I'm only 5"1!!!! Anyway, I finally found a balance with my hormones and although I will never feel like the same person I did before surgery, I will take the lethargic feeling and big mouth any day over cramps and pain.
Good Luck!