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I had my hysterectomy on May 12th. Last night was my 16th anniversary, and it is the 1st time my DH and I have had sexual intercourse. I am not really sure why. We have had fore play, but not done the act. The other night we did try. But my DH has had problems with ED, for quite some time. The other night when we tried, he was like I think I am going to go to the doc to talk to him about getting something. He did yesterday. It did work. That was the 1st sexual intercourse senses my surgery. It felt a little tighter. My DH said. I really could not feel that big a difference. I am not sure it was because of him having taken his med for his ED. and he had a better erection. Or it is truly tighter down there. I guess what I am trying to say has anybody experienced this. With it being tighter, after their surgery?
HOney, after all this recovery I can only HOPE... And good luck to you. I actually asked my doc to "tighten up" during the surgery, but after two weeks, there's still no telling if it was. But good news from you helps me along....and good for your hubby. Aren't men lucky now to have things they can do? Imagine all men in the past who had nothing. I'm super glad he's man enough to get help.
When I went to my initial consult with my gyn, my husband came with me. After talking a few minutes about what was to be done, he looked right at my husband and said ..."she will be just like a 16 year old again..." When we got in the car my DH and I looked at each other and laughed. What a strange comment to make but I guess that answers the "tight" question.
I dont know my gyn told my DH that when we do the deed to take it easy and to treat me like its my first time LOL just what I need at 43 yrs old. Anyway my gyn also said it would be tighter so we shall see I still have a week left
I had a TVH and my doctor said he would tighten it back up to where it was before I had kids. My husband appreciated this as both boys were born breech (of course long labors) so I needed some minimizing. He also said the first few times after we were given the OK to have sex it was really tight (kinda had to be stretched back out a little), but has since stretched a bit.
In my case it definitely was tighter. We were given the ok at 8 weeks and I was very nervous and anxious so we waited a couple of days til I was ready, and it was almost like the first time.
Everything was great but there was a little burning at the beginning and several times after.
Just use lots of lubrication and take it slowly.
My DH was eating onion rings and he held up one big O and one little o and did the before and after comparison.
Just relax and enjoy.
I'm 5 weeks post-op from a TVH and feel very well. The only remaining problem is SEX. Sex is SOOOOOO painful. I almost cry it hurts so bad. I called my Dr. who said that it's normal & that I have an entire row of stitches "up there". He claims that things will get better. I sure hope so. Any advice ladies????