frustrated

OKay - trying to be calm and rational, which I hven't ben most of the day. It suddenly hit me that I'm under a month away for the surgery and now I'm starting to panic. Not to mention that lots of my friends and co-workers are talking about it so it hits me everywhere I go.

I'm pretty stright forward with people medicaly. I've endured alot wth 23 cleft palate/lip related surgeries, 3 laporoscpies, and ear repair for a punctured ear drum - so talking about this hasn't been a problem.

I feel like my family (mom, dad, siblings) doesn't get what this surgery means for me. Friends trivilize it - and my husband is convinced I'm going to die so I'm trying to reassure him.

What happened to being there for me?????

Uggghh!!! I think I need to snuggle up with my dogs and shut out the rest of the world.

:burning: :moody
*punch*

Karen

I am sorry you are having a hard time now. The waiting for the day can be a little trying to say the least. I have been there and know how all these things are causing a lot of moodiness and stress for all involved.

DH's don't understand sometimes ,and are afraid for us and react differently when they are concerned . Yes, sometimes we have to help them understand what we know about the surgery so they don't worry unduly and let them know how they can help us.

I think sometimes people play down the surgery so they don't worry or scare us. It is interesting how people react to us having surgery.

They say dog is a man 's best friend, and sometimes it is a comfort to just be comforted by their quiet presence. It is a nice place to retreat to sometimes, so enjoy and relax.

Best wishes on your surgery and recovery. I'll be thinking and praying for you.

s

Karen,

It's hard for people to understand what you are feeling/facing, if they have never been through it. My sisters have no clue.....they think I have gone back to work, yet I haven't. They stopped coming here (10 minutes away) and calling after week 2.
We are here for you!!!

I am praying for you......praying that you will give your panic to God and allow Him to replace it with His peace. I am praying for your DH as well. I pray that he will see that although it is major surgery, it is done every day. I pray he will trust God for you and your surgery.

Nancy