BM - or lack thereof

Had TAH on Tuesday, 12/7 and was released on Wed (couldn't take more than one night). Other than a little gas and "numb-belly" above the incision (binkini) I can't really complain about any pain or even a lot of discomfort. I have had no urge for a bm, however and I'm not sure when I should start to become concerned. I'm eating fairly regularly and am walking about the house ok but am starting to get paranoid that I'm going to wait too long and then not be able to go (my sister ended up back in the hospital due to dehydration & bowel back-up but she had a lot more complications for her TAH than I did. Any ideas on how long it takes to get back to regular bm's? I have been taking a stool softener twice a day since the day after surgery.
Found this sight by accident - it really is great!

Water, water, water. Also stool softeners and/or laxatives. Between the anesthesia and the medications, there's always some "back up" after surgery. Your pharmacist should be able to make some suggestions. Some things work better for some, others for others. I understand prune juice works well, but I could never make myself drink it. I went for a all natural laxative instead (recommended by my pharmacist), and it's worked each time. (Took at night before bed, by morning - surprise!)

It was 5 days before I had mine. It was not comfortable (to say the least), but it was actually better than those after I had my kids. Keep taking that stool softener. Hope this helps.