Taking care of my baby!!!

I had a TAH on Dec 7 2004, I also have a 9 month old baby, and a 4 year old, I am really concerned about taking care of them, I feel emotionally that I am ready to stop depending on people to take care of my kids (I'm a part-time stay at home mom), but the baby weighs over 23 pounds, Did anybody else go through this and if so, when were you able to take care of your baby by yourself. I don't want to rush things, and end up worse in the long run. But I'm afraid my son will think I'm just the lady that lives in the same house! (I do play with him and rock him to sleep

Thanks
SweetPete

Well, you are a little over a month post-op so if you are feeling up to taking on more, like being home alone with the children, call and ask your doctor if it is ok for you to pick him up and such. Even though you are feeling better, we still dont want you to injure yourself. I know these surgeries are some different, but I was able to be alone and take care of my children after my last c-section. I was worried about being able to get my 20 month old son in and out of the crib without help. I managed fine and that was at 2 1/2 weeks post-op.

Just call you doctor and ask!!

Take Care,
Jenny

At the time of my hyst my sons were 17 months and 3. I had help for six full weeks. I had a vertical incision with 28 staples, and there was no way I could lift either of them. It is alot different than lifting after a section. You had major organs removed. A section is the removal of a baby, and the uterus is stitched up. You are not removing an organ with a section. please try and get help if possible. I doubt if your doc would approve of your lifting that much weight. good luck, carol

I care for a 9 month old (19 lbs) in my daycare - just started back up again on Monday this week.
He is very active & I've found that my going to his level has been the way around lifting him a lot. He crawls into my lap to snuggle for bottle etc - I go to where he is w/changing pad when he needs diaper....
still need to lift him into crib & carry him about some, but he hasn't minded the adjustments at all. Have had a 2 & two 4-yr olds w/him this week & the other children have been great about helpers.
It's not all how it usually goes, but we're all very glad to be getting back to a normal schedule around here!

Am waiting a couple more weeks before starting back w/the other baby (she's much larger), but so far so good, other than I wish it was ME who could have "nap time" !!!

Perhaps your little one would adjust to similar - Be careful tho!

S

I have a grandson who was 9 months old when I had my surgery. I take care of him 7-5 M-F in the winter. The week I had surgery he went to my mom's house, from then on he was back with me, but with someone else there most of the time for the times he had to be lifted, until my DR cleared me to pick him up, at my 7 week check up.

I also spent a great deal of time down on his level. Before my surgery I got him used to taking a nap on a quilt on the floor, and I had the living room gated and baby proofed, it essentially became a large playpen.

He sat in my lap or snuggled close (on the floor) for a bottle, I changed him on the floor, if he needed to be rocked I laid a pillow across my lap and someone else would pick him up and place him on the pillow.

From about 4 weeks on I would have been ok by myself with him, except if there was an emergency or something I wouldn't have been able to pick him up without risking injury myself. But I don't think at that point I could have leaned over the tub to bathe him.

I hope you won't try to lift him before your DR gives you the ok to lift something as heavy as he is.

Best wishes.

I realize a c-section and a hyst. are two totally different surgeries. Please call you doctor and ask them. Better to be safe than sorry.

I have a 10 month old foster baby (27 pounds) and his mom is living with us so that helped out a lot, but in the last week or so I have been picking him up and holding him while standing. Up until then I would sit down and then pick him up. My arms have gotten a lot stronger over the past 10 months and therefore I was able to use them to move myself around in the hospital and when I first got home (TAH). The other day I was holding him and then leaned over to try and pick up something, BIG MISTAKE! It hurt for a long time at my incision site. I won't be doing that again for a while. When I first got home I would hold him in my lap facing out because I didn't want him to touch me, but now I can hold him facing me and it isn't as sore. His mom is doing lots more (which is wonderful!) but I did have that feeling that he wouldn't know who I was anymore, but he will come to me now and want me to hold him. I try not to walk steps with him but other than that I can hold him for a while.