what happens when they say nothing is wrong?

I have had a CT tests an MRI and all of them say negative but there is so much pain and tearing going on that i reallly want at least an idea of what is going on down there. Every night i sit here in more misery that the day before i know i have to keep telling myself that i will heal but it has been 12 wks and i feel worse and worse everyday and unfortunatly my life did not and will not allow for this extra healing time. So everyday the more i do the worse i get.

NOw what am i suppose to do i have thrown fits, discussed calmly, threatened divorce and even offered to pay my own family to help around the house and to help take care of me.

I have taken family to DR s and went through diagrams and discusion s on the exact pain and strain my abdomen and surgical site is under in each thing i do but nothing they respond for a day then forget all about it or i willl actually get up to do something that i want/need to get done and my husband will get all mad at me and say " what are you trying to kill yourself?" like he is all concerned and then 15 min later it's "honey could you ....... for me, or mommy ...?"

Anyhow i gave up at the third week of recovery and now i am miserable Happy Bday to me!
hkaci75

Wow. I am so sorry you are in pain and sounding frustrated.

I am intrigued about your post. It sounds like you are not getting the answers you need yet you seem to be having a number of tests that should help.

Have you looked into possibly getting another doctor involved? I am not sure if you have had other opinions or doctors. I would say that after twelve weeks, you should be feeling better....not worse.

It sounds like you are having some trouble getting the family posse together to help pitch in around the house. I can understand at the beginning of your post op, things not getting done and seeming chaotic at times. But after three months, you would think family members would have it down pat.

I made myself pretty much unavailable to my family. I tried to basically "disappear" from the inner workings of the day to day stuff. I was either covered up on the couch or laying in bed with the door closed. Sometimes, the DH and kids would forget I was even around, because I kept to myself and kept quiet.

Maybe you just need to set up camp in another room somewhere with the door closed. Put a do not disturb sign on the door.

With a new doctor, maybe have the whole clan come in for the first initial meeting and have the doctor explain the seriousness of it all and the fact that you may have set yourself back and will need even more time to heal.

Then when you get home, disappear . You are not available. Aside from a in the house...you will not be seen.

I hope that things smooth out for you and you can get to the bottom of what is causing this long lasting pain.

Let us know how things go. I would hope that maybe you could find another doctor that you feel comfortable with and has a sense of direction that will help find out what is going on.

Best wishes to you...

Sarah

Why did you have your hyst? It is easier to help if we know. Also, where is the pain and what kind of hyst did you have.
Sorry you are in so much pain.
Carrie