Wow. I am so sorry you are in pain and sounding frustrated.
I am intrigued about your post. It sounds like you are not getting the answers you need yet you seem to be having a number of tests that should help.
Have you looked into possibly getting another doctor involved? I am not sure if you have had other opinions or doctors. I would say that after twelve weeks, you should be feeling better....not worse.
It sounds like you are having some trouble getting the family posse together to help pitch in around the house.
I can understand at the beginning of your post op, things not getting done and seeming chaotic at times. But after three months, you would think family members would have it down pat.
I made myself pretty much unavailable to my family. I tried to basically "disappear" from the inner workings of the day to day stuff. I was either covered up on the couch or laying in bed with the door closed. Sometimes, the DH and kids would forget I was even around, because I kept to myself and kept quiet.
Maybe you just need to set up camp in another room somewhere with the door closed. Put a do not disturb sign on the door.
With a new doctor, maybe have the whole clan come in for the first initial meeting and have the doctor explain the seriousness of it all and the fact that you may have set yourself back and will need even more time to heal.
Then when you get home, disappear
. You are not available. Aside from a
in the house...you will not be seen.
I hope that things smooth out for you and you can get to the bottom of what is causing this long lasting pain.
Let us know how things go. I would hope that maybe you could find another doctor that you feel comfortable with and has a sense of direction that will help find out what is going on.
Best wishes to you...