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Today is my one year anniversary! Alot has gone in my life in the last year or should I say I have been on a roller coaster with no end. I am 35 years old now and don't know which way to turn or where to begin with this. So I guess I will start with the last year. I had needed my hysterectomy for awhile and by controlling the bleeding with birthcontrol pills I was able to put it off. After much discussing with my boyfriend, we decided that it was time. Knowing that I would never be able to have any more kids. I am a mother of two daughters and he has a son from previous relationships. I had the surgery, we got married a month and a half later then I graduated from college our lives had changed drastically within three months. After seven months into our marriage (after dating for 3 years) my husband tells me he is leaving because he was bored!! Later I find out that he couldn't handle my moods, the crying, the loss of energy and just about everything I was going through, he didn't know how to be the husband I needed. I went in to depression all over again. Today we are still married but separated and remain friends. I am back to being a single mother, working full-time and going to school part-time. My energy is starting to come back now, but I still get tired easily. I still have some sex drive but not as much as before. I still have one ovary, so I didn't have a total hysterectomy. Alot of women who have had a hysterectomy said that it was the best thing that ever happened to them and they felt great right after. I guess I am still waiting for that feeling to come along.

You sure are right cuzican,

A lot has happened to you since your hyst!

I'm sorry to hear that things aren't going so great for you yet, I really hope you can try to focus on some of the brighter things in your life like your daughters, your strength in raising them alone and your successes in going back to school.

I'm 7 months post-op, I had a TAH/BSO and tossed in a TT while I was there anyway. I just turned 40 in January, I have two sons, work full-time and go to school nights, so in a lot of ways I can relate to some of the things you might be going through. I am married too, and my DH is very giving except when it comes to himself, so I try to keep myself so busy that I never have time to notice.

I don't really have any advise for you because I don't think anyone could really know how you feel and what you go through, but I just wanted to reach out to you to let you know that if you ever just need to chat, rant, or SCREAM...someone will be there to listen. (Oops!please do not post e-mail address, thanks)

Hang in there, you sound like you are on the right track and happy anniversary!

Rhonda

Hi,

Unfortunately, hysterectomies aren't always the best thing that happen to us. I know some who are pleased, but others still have on going problems. We way the risks and try to make the best decision at the time and go on from there.

You have been through a lot and going through the post op and after can be a challenge especially with our hormones not quite balancing half the time.

If you find your moods are all over the place , sex drive off, you might talk to your dr and see it you need hrt to help things along.

I hope things get better for you. Sometimes time apart can be a good time to reflect and figure out about what you want to do.

I am sending lots of s

I just wanted to send you a and let you know I'm thinking about you. I hope this next year brings you renewed health and much happiness.

My are with you.

Hi, I just wanted to let you know that things will get better. I'm 1 year and 1 month post-op, and believe me, I didn't quite think I would get to this point. I had no choice in the matter of having a hysterectomy. One week I found out I had cancer, and the next, boom, I was having the hysterectomy. No time to prepare. I knew somewhat of what I was facing, but the emotional turmoil was the worst. Not only going thru the hormonal/emotional changes, there was/is a special friend in my life, and my family does not care for him at all. So trying to recup from the surgery and battling for my special friendship, only God knows what it was/is like. Still to this day, our friendship remains, and my family still does not like him. Thats a whole story within itself. But what I'm trying to say in my feeble way, is please hang in there, 'cuz things will get better. I have found that I am stronger emotionally. Just take it one day at a time, keep your faith strong, and I know God will see you through.