Its a CULT!!!!!

Hi, everyone.
Some background: I'm a 39-year-old single woman who has never had children and never been married. Blah. I do have a wonder dog named Alomar who is the world's smartest, cutest, and best pet. Most of my close friends have not dealt with hysterectomies, so until I found this site, I felt very alone in the decision-making process. My TAH BSO is scheduled for Saturday, March 3rd.

For about two weeks now, I've been telling everyone I know about this great web site and how I am a pre-punctured princess, a lady in waiting, a member of the royal family just waiting for my trip to the castle to make it official.
In addition, I gave my doctor a copy of the information sheet about the hystersisters, and he promised to check it out and make copies for other ladies contemplating a crown.

Some out there just don't understand. The jealous ones.
"A pre-punctured princess?" they scoff. "What castle?" they question. And it's a sisterhood that they simply don't get. My closest friend told me after I went on for a little while (no more than an hour or so) about my "lady in waiting" status that I was taking all this just a little too seriously. I think not. She went so far as to suggest that the hystersisters might be a cult, but that's just her envy rearing its ugly head again.

My friend thinks that just because I've purchased a tiara, a purple robe for the hospital, and I refer to myself in the third person, "her majesty thinks . . ." that I've gone too far. Nonsense, I tell her. But once I get home from the hospital and onto my throne, she'd better learn to kneel.

Soon to be crowned,
Pam

wish I found this cult earlier

I like you,have no childern, never been married and share my home with two (not so wonder) dogs (one at the time of my surgery). I did not know about this site until after my surgery. Boy I sure could have used the help and support. Women who have not been through it just don't understand. And I am the strong type so I could not tell anyone I was scared or worried. So thanks for spreading the word. rincess: You truley deserve a crown, so wear it proudly!

Pam - Some things you just can't explain to others I had tah/bso last March...my insurance co. staff nurse called and gave me this web site...for that I was very thankful. We'll be here with you every step of the way. Glad you found us.

ORIGINALLY POSTED BY "MURBY"

come now...cult?

Dear Pam,
Liked your note. Tell your friend that said that-get a life! I love this site. Any time your can take a really tough circumstance, and find a way to lighten the load, that is half the battle. This shares the burden. Makes it fun to think about the references to the castle and the crowned princess. I've joked with my husband about this, and he agrees that a lighthearted approach is great. We can talk and share, and support one another. Nobody asked you to drink any poison for the cause yet, did they? Even in difficult circumstances, to know that someone else knows and understands, is just a tremendous feeling of support. I know one thing, this is such an individual experience, people who are not confronted with this situation really don't understand. Maybe you have to watch your enthusiasm around those who wouldn't understand.
Consider yourself hugged and supported.

I'll be a princess 2-27, have to be at the castle at 5:30am, and still some prep. before 7:30 puncture time and coronation. For TAH, BSO, 2 cysts, and appendix.
Keep in touch.

Can't think of a better cult to belong to.

My friends think I'm a little bazaar too but hey, it helps to see that there are real people going through the same thing.

I even bought a Hyster Sister shirt to wear as a night shirt for my hospital stay and have the guide book ready to guide me through the coronation and recovery.

On to slay the

Coronation date 3/19

Alas, fair princesses, I am the guilty one--the one accused of calling my pre-punctured friend a "cult" member because of her new-found website! Perhaps I do feel a little left out! I am 43, still with all of my parts, but be assured that I too will experience the hot flashes and other symptoms soon enough! So, can't we all just be friends??? After all, we do all share putting our feet in the stirrups! I cannot possibly understand what my friend--or any of you--is going through, but did she bother to tell you all that I have been with her through several surgeries and doctor's visits and that I am taking her on a short vacation in a month to lift her spirits (okay, it's really a conference of mine that she's tagging along to, but still, I'm getting her out of the house!).

Seriously, this is a wonderful website, and I'm glad my dear friend has found all of you. Just wanted you all to know that you have friends who love you, care about you, and want to help you, even if we can't relate to all you are going through. That's why I decided to check out this website in the first place--to get some info on helping. (I still think it's kind of "cultish," but that's not always a bad thing!)

Hi Pam,
Some people are ignorant and until they go through what
we have to they will never know.I have surgery tomarrow.
I am really getting nervous. I am 42 and I am having a Tah/bso. My dh always asks what is so interesting on this
web sight. I just tell him there is a ton of info. and alot
of caring people that are going through what i am about to.
It also helps sharing and talking about this instead of holding it all in.For those friends of yours tell them to read up and maybe they might learn alittle bit of what you
are going through. Take Care and Good Luck with your surgery.
Sandy

Yes, my friend jokingly called this a cult. But take it easy on her; she was jesting.

There is a bond, a fine silver thread that we "hystersisters" have that others can acknowledge but perhaps cannot fully understand. I love this site. It supplies me with contact with those who have been there or are presently there. My "cult" friend likes this site too, and she supplies me with every sensitivity a non-princess can show--even if she has the perfect husband, two perfect kids, the perfect job, and a not-so-perfect dog, nothing like Alomar.

Thanks, ladies, for all your responses. You "culties"always come through.

Pam

Pamtherunner and Pam'sfriend

You sound like wonderful friends. It's great to have someone there for you--to support and help. That is what this site (and life) is all about. Support and friendship even if most of us have never met. We all need that connection! Welcome pam'sfriend!

What a great friend

Hi Pam & Friend, I really had to rely on friends during my recovery since my family lives so far away. My friends were so wonderful because I never can ask for help they had to read my mind and just do it. Pam try to ask for what you need. One friend took me (and my mother and sister to the hospital). Another brought me home, picked up my meds. Since she is a nurse she went beyond friendship, she removed my 25 staples a week after surgery so I did not have to make a trip back to the Dr. Every week she ran my sweeper and other chores plus checked my incision and discussed all my bodily functions and answered my silly questions. Poor woman saw far more of me :blushliterally) than she wanted. Anyhow, when you are on your own, friends are invaluable. Oh, really important, get her out of the house for short trips and visit (bring food)!! I will be thinking of you both.