What a dear sweet man

Yesterday in a conversation with my DH and DD I mentioned I felt good enough to move my bed back into our bedroom... My DH looked at me and said "Are you sure?" He said "You can stay in the office as long as necessary.. he doesnt want me to do anything I dont feel like... He said to take my time and not worry about coming back to the bedroom until I am fully ready... I don't know if he likes the idea of his OWN bedroom or if it is him just being sweet... hard to tell with him since one minute he acts like a spoiled brat that is 17 and the next like he is 44 years old... darn stroke...wish I could read him better now... I want to believe he is being sweet and concerned that I am resting enough....

He mentioned the six weeks time schedual and said he didn't expect me to come back in the room until then... Maybe I should take his advice and stay where I am .. I do rest better in the office, can't hear him snoring or grabbing his trapeze to get himself up and out of bed.

What do you gals think?

Ces.

IMHO, you should stay in the office. The better you heal, the better able you will be to care for him later. If the two of you get lonely for each other's snuggling, there's no reason why you can't spend an occasional night in the bed with him. Bless him for being so understanding and putting you first! You're very lucky to have such a wonderful man.

Hi Ces
I'd say to move the bed back. Its nice to be close to someone even if they do snore lol

I moved back into the bedroom about 2 weeks ago. It has really helped me. I was on the sofa, and it just wasn't good for my back, so even though I was worried at first about DH rolling into my sensitive tummy, things have been so much better.

DH hasn't bumped me, but twice I've woken up with his head on my pillow. LOL. He never did that before -- I think he got used to hogging the bed while I was on the sofa.

Maybe HE could sleep in the office, and you could have the bedroom back!

I was lucky. I slept on the couch with help from my mom during the day. At night DH helped me into bed. He had to I still had my lovely little friend Mr. Cathater. But I was lucky because DH had little bro and sisters. He got used to feeling something behind him and wouldn't roll any farther for fear of squishing one of them. I was more at ease in bed, But I didn't sleep well anywhere.

I would say try a night or two of "moving" back into your bed with your husband and see how it works out for you and him both. Sometimes having someone around you (IMO) will help the healing process go by faster. It's nice to have someone near you too.

I hate sleeping alone. When my husband is out of town on business I have a hard time falling asleep. Even after my C-Sections I slept with my husband in the same bed as me. Always helped me fall asleep faster. I guess it's different for everyone. Good luck to you!

Melissa

Being a romantic, I'd say HD is thinking only of you. Not knowing him and your relationship I can't say, if YOU feel better and get more rest in the office I'd say stay in the office. Me personally, and maybe because we've been married since we were 17 (36 years now) I'd want to be with my DH even if he snores. As far as worrying about him getting to close to your bekky, We put a pillow between us just in case and it helped at night to have my belly on the pillow for support so I could sleep on my side.What reason put you in a seperate room anyway? My DH made steps for our bed since it is to high. Really makes me feel like a princess when he holds my hand to help me up the steps to bed ( even after 7 weeks today)

That's a tough one. Your Dear Sweet Man sounds as though he's putting your health first, yet you sound like you want to be near him.

Can you get to sleep better, being near his snoring? With my Dear Sweet Man, his snoring lulls me to sleep. You can always sneak in for a snuggle and hand holding, to surprise him.

Take care, Judi

My DH has many health issues...all caused from a massive stroke he survived in 2002..

He doesnt move in bed because his left side is paralized... His bed is a hospital bed with a trapeze on it to assist him in getting up and out of bed... Then metal makes quite a racket when he is using it...

What I do to make it so we can sleep near each other is put my twin bed right up against his hospital bed....

I moved my bed in the computer room cause I have an addiction to the net.. being a caregiver for him I am not able to get out and this is my link to the real world... being near it while I was down was a necessity for my sanity...

But even before my surgery IF he was snoring before I went to bed I had trouble sleeping..

My reason for considering staying in the office is cause one of the side effects of his stroke is his libido....he thinks he is 17 in that area.... and has no ability to restrain himself... mind you this is caused from his stroke and he is definately doing good not pushing the issue of sex right now... but I know he would push it if I were laying next to him...It is caused by damage to the frontal lobe of his brain, in a form of dementia....

So now you see my concern....

Ces.