HI, I had a TVH w/ rectocele, cystocele and major pelvic floor repair. Well the Dr. said that he would tighten me up like I was before I had kids!! Well, he sure did!! I am now 13 weeks out and feel like I am to tight. I know that the vagina will stretch, but it just is tight! My DH has noticed a major change, but says that he doesn't mind!! He sure climaxes a lot faster now!!
But it takes so long for him to enter me and for me to get loosed up enough to be comfortable and enjoy it!! By the time I do, he is done!!!!!!!!
We do use quite a bit of lub and take it slow, but has anyone else had this problem???
Is this just part of the healing process and will it better?? Thanks for any replies and sorry for TMI!!
But I know it is OK to ask my hystersisters!!
Hi, I had the same surgery as you and my gyn told me the same thing about tightening me up like before I had kids. Anyway at my 1st visit yesterday she said something like, you're tightened up and so make sure to have plenty of lube and a couple glasses of wine before you attempt sex in about 4 more weeks. I've heard what you feel is normal and I have a feeling I'll be experiencing the very same thing.
I'm 5 weeks post op and my Dr. told me he tightened me up too. I'm not cleared until next week for intercourse, now I'm curious and a little nervous! Like Jess352 said, drink some wine! I do anyway and I may have a couple more glasses prior to it!
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I had anterior and posterior repair too and before I had the anesthesia I asked the Dr to make me like a 20 year old again. He sure did!! The first time DH and I had sex I wanted him to critique the whole thing, was it too loose, too tight, did it feel different? All he said was "Tell the Dr... Thank you". It does loosen up a bit after so just use lots of lube, take it slow, and if DH reaches the stars before you... he owes you one!!
I have read that there are things you can buy to help stretch out the vagina and make it bigger. In fact I heard you could even use a cucumber (make sure it's clean and lubricated and be gentle).
I asked my doc before my TVH if I would be smaller, shorter, or tighter and he said no, he'd keep it the same. I was glad because I didn't want to be smaller. But I'm very curious how it will be down there. My uterus had prolapsed and was in the way although it didn't really interfere with intercourse. Now with the uterus gone, will I be too roomy? I guess I'll find out in a few weeks!
I also had the rectocele repair. To do that, they remove excess vaginal tissue and suture that up. They also sometimes (for me they did) have to remove the scar tissue from childbirth that is at the entrance to the vagina. The doc told me it would be tight, but it would stretch. But the doc also had to stretch it during the first two exams. He said that sometimes when you heal, the tissues will draw down and become too tight. I had a couple of silver nitrate treatments, and the doc did the stretching. Then he said we had to just have intercourse several times before it would be OK.
I hate to say this, but it really HURT at first. Even with lots of lube. Finally after a few months it was tolerable, and now it is fine, not uncomfortable at all.
I think everyone heals differently and certainly should have their doc examine them if they are having any discomfort or pain. Just to make sure it is normal and will resolve with time.