34 and struggling

I'm 34 years old and found out last Monday that I had to have a hysterectomy on Tuesday. It was all so fast with no time to prepare, and I'm finding myself crying at all times of day and night. Any one else further along in a similar situation? Thoughts?

I am sorry to hear that. Is your sadness coming from the fact that you no longer will be able to bear children?? If so, that's a biggie. If you have been in pain, the surgery will be worth it. It's a scary thing for us to think about. I am 44 and am done with having children but still had crying jags before the surgery. I wish you the best of luck and stay in touch. We are all here for you!!

Dear badewolf
I'm so sorry you had this happen to you this way. We all know what a shock this can be to learn you have to have this done. To not have any time to adjust mentally or to read and get all your questions answered must be very difficult.
It is only natural that you will be full of emotions right now. You are dealing with physical and emotional trauma. We are here to help any way we can to answer questions about how to deal with the pain of the heart issues that are so common,hormone issues that may come up or any post op problems or concerns.
Please rest and take good care for now. Your body will need time to heal and lots of good food and plenty of water. I hope you also have people around you to pamper and support you emotionally. Let us know if we can help.
's, Rita

I'm confused. Are you saying you already had the surgery, as it states on your mini-profile, or are you scheduled to have the surgery this coming Tuesday, the 7th? If you've already had it, how on earth did they go through all of the pre-op procedures so fast - and why the hurry?

Dear Badewolf,
I was 33 y/o when I was scheduled for my TVH just 4 days after being diagnosed with a large fibroid that was causing me heavy bleeding and pain. I am now 7 months out and 34 and I can say that the only thing i wish i could change would be that I had found this site sooner. So as I see it, half of your battle is already won. I was confused by your posted dates too but I thought I would reply since our ages are so close. If you have no children and are faced with this surgery it is much different than if you already have children. Although it affects everyone in separate ways... all normal. Just remember to pamper yourself and not to feel bad about how you feel even if it isn't good. We are all here for you and hope all goes well in your recovery. Take care and keep us posted. Tami S. in Florida

Had the surgery last Tuesday. I've had three endo laparascopies prior - two of them excisions. After three months of intense pain, ending with the week prior to surgery where I could no longer walk without pain meds, my doc (who is nationally well-respected) decided to do another lap (my fourth), expecting to remove right ovary. He suspected adenomyosis from condition of my uterus during lap thirteen months ago, but he was not planning to remove the uterus. It was a "we'll look and see" situation at the time of surgery. When he went in, the adenomyosis had perforated the uterine wall, so the uterus had to come out, too. He left the left ovary. I was not planning on having more children, but I wasn't ready to give up the option entirely, either. Plus, I just feel a bit robbed. I know it needed to go, and it was better to go now than later, but it doesn't change the way I feel. I guess it may be called mourning.

As for the quick scheduling, my doc's patients come from all over the world - few from my home town. He is able to schedule quickly with our hospital due to his reputation and the fact it is a small community.

I'm sorry you didn't have time to get used to the idea of having your uterus removed before the deed was done. Some women definitely do mourn their loss, as you are. Hopefully your pain is now gone.

Dear badewolf,

Hugs to you--- Perhaps your hormones need a lift! Are you taking some? This could definately help with your emotions. Hang in there!

Thanks so much to all of you who have responded. I am surprised how much it helps to know I'm not the only one in my situation. It particularly helped to hear from those of you a few months down the road - who are relieved to be pain-free! I am going to focus on the end point rather than wallowing in the unchangeable.

Good for you, badewolf. Looking forward is so much better than focusing on the past. Once you've worked through the whole grieving process you'll really be able to focus on your pain-free life and enjoy it.