unhappy and don't know why

Hello

I am post TAH and BSO by 7 weeks. I do not have problems at home or at work but I am so unhappy and don't know why. I cry if I'm looked at, I am really not wanting to go back to work and it isn't until 6 weeks away. I am usually strong and can cope. I have a big and successful job 4 great children and I am utterly miserable. On HRT for 1 week now.

I am 8 weeks and pretty much feel the same way. I have also been on hrt for 1 week. Dr. said that the hrt will not kick in until i have been on for a month. I hope he is right. I hope things get better for you sweetheart. Maybe we are normal.

I'm not sure how to use this site yet but this is for Peanut 741 tn to say thanks for replying so quickly. It helps to talk especially to people who know what it is all about. It isn't as though I want sympathy I just want to be in control again and not dreading situations and in particular I want to stop wanting to skrike (UK expression for crying your eyes out) all the time. I even cry when I think about crying these days. I get some perspective when I try to rationalise and remember I elected to do this many have to do it for other more difficult medical reasons. Thanks again Peanut. I have even turned the phone off so I don't have to speak to anyone how mad is that?

I don't think that is mad at all. I have plenty of times since my surgery where i don't even answer the phone. I don't feel good enough to talk to anyone. Plus the fact that none of my so called friends have been here for me since my surgery. Not one of them who offered to help presurgery have helped post surgery. So, why should I feel like talking to any of them? You are doing what it takes to get well, right. That may include a lot of crying, laughing, anger, resentment, and a broad spectrum of "feelings" that we are going to go through. It was after all a major event in our lives, right?

I'm not on HRT (still have one ovary that seems to be working fine), but you are SO normal!!! I finally feel like my emotions have begun to settle and I don't cry at every little thing - mad/sad/tired/sore - even on days I felt physically good - some days I'd cry at the nothing at all. I think it takes time for your hormones to work themselves out of a frenzy, and just to quiet down. Hang in there - it will get better! I think everything about this surgery is emotional and exhausting, and we just have to ride it out. Take care!

I had forgotten the time difference between our countries - it is very kind of you to talk to me at five to seven! Yes many of my - now acquaintences - haven't bothered particularly. I have one exceptionally good friend who has consistently been there and I reciprocate when it is needed - I guess it is a time thing. I used to love work you know. I am early fifties and not work shy - I know how to motor when I have to but I am dreading returning. We may even sell up so I don't have to but what kind of thing is that to do to my hubbie who has grafted all his life. He's great but he's a bit baffled by me just now. One of my major problems when I am in 'not cope' is opening my mouth to speak I just cannot do it without starting to blubber. I am supposed to be organised and have perspective and tons of rationale - what a joke. How does the song go - if they could see me now? I shan't give in but this site has helped enormously. You know, when I first joined I had the termerity to offer some people advice. I think maybe I should have waited to see how I progressed myself before proffering words of wisdom. Wisdom is all very well until you've been there isn't it? Thank goodness for my family, they might not understand but they are lovely and I do love them. for chatting. I love the smilie of the fibroid - it just about sums it up.

thank you so much for this - I am going to log everything people say and keep reading it.

I agree with you all...I have good days and bad...went back to work last week and I was very tired by Friday......I have been on estrogel for just over a month now... I had to dobule the usage b/c of the hot flashes and YES not feeling like myself....since then I feel about the same but the hot flashes are more tolerable...so now how long do you have to stay on this stuff for??? I just want to get back to feeling normal again....
thank God for this site....