Outer sex or outercourse as alot of the hystersisters call it is what I would call... outer stimulation. Sex without penetration ( sorry if this sounds too graphic ) you and your partner stimulating each other in other ways. I am told you can experience the big "O" long before you can have intercourse again after a hysterectomy. I am 4 weeks tomorrow and have done the deed and all was OK
Hope this helps!
Something to keep in mind - Might be TMI - generally anal sex and oral stimulation are not a good idea according to most doctors. These activities, while keeping to the "nothing in the vagina" rule, can still introduce bacteria that can cause infection.
Are you making reference to clitorial stimulation or oral sex? Is that allowed? My doctor mentioned no sex for 6 weeks, I am wondering if he was referring to intercourse. I am a bit concerned it having an orgasim pre 6 weeks might cause some disruption in the healing. I know we are not professional doctors but what do we think? I am all for using the TOYS!!! That is why G-d made them for sale.
It's all down to the individual really. Pre-op I was thinking 'No need to even think about sex for 6 weeks.' I lasted 3 days after the op till my newly-emerged libido caught up with me! And everything worked fine and even better than before. I'm talking clitoral stimulation - I won't receive oral sex until I'm given the all-clear by the doctor.