Sitting here Crying...

I am having a BAD day. I am so ready for my TVH. My Dr put me on meds to make me stop bleeding on 6/7 and I am still bleeding and it is getting worse! I don't know why I am so emotional today, I have really had it together lately. My DH told me yesterday that he has scheduled all of his vacation to take care of me after surgery. My question to him was why are you wasting your vacation for this? Seriously, I need to get a grip. We have been married for 8 years and together for 10. His answer was, you are the only wife I have and ever want, I AM going to be here for you whether you like it or not. My 5 year old has been acting out I guess because he is worried. I am just tired but can't sleep...My cramps are getting so bad not I am throwing up again...Everytime I tell my mom something about the surgery or what I am feeling she feels the need to tell me about her bad day at work and doesn't hear anything I say. I feel like I have no one to talk to about this, they don't want to hear it. This is a major event in my life and I need to vent no matter how many times I say the same thing. I found out yesterday that my dad isn't even going to come home for my surgery and that hurts my feelings ( I am 27) I really need to just get over it. Sorry for the vent, just needed to get it off my chest

Hey bigbucknchick! I am from Louisiana too! I live in Mississippi now and I'm having my hyst in Slidell. I think people just don't know what to say. My Mom hasn't said much but I know she's worried. She can't be there because my Dad's in a wheelchair and needs her there with him. My husband's going to be there. I know he would rather be working and will be a nervous wreck knowing all the work he has to do, but oh well. I hope you feel better in the morning and try to get some rest. The more rested you are before surgery, the better you'll be after. Good luck tomorrow! You will be a princess!

Thanks so much! I know everything will be ok just need to get past this bump in the road...

Good luck tomorrow! I wish you a speedy recovery!

I understand your anxiety-I lose it about once a week (have had to wait 6 weeks-seems like a lifetime!) Your husband sounds so sweet-he's a keeper! Let him pamper you and show his love for you during this stressful time. After all, you'd do it for him, wouldn't you? Deep breaths...

Hey Lady,
You can always vent to us Hyster Sisters, We know what your feeling. It's very stressful to wait for surgery especially when you don't feel well. Sounds like you have an awesome husband. Hang on to him, he's a keeper. Don't you worry, everything will be okay, you'll see. Keep the faith Bigbucknchick, we are in this together. Tomorrow will be better. Hugs from me to you, Susan

I also had to wait and schedule mine a month out. It was hard waiting but I bought a couple of books on menapause and hysterectomy and studied lots before my surgery. :I still got nervous but I learned alot. Sometimes loved ones don't know what to say so they talk about themselves. They will be checking on you and just let your husband pamper you. My husband had to take three weeks off with me (it was going to be two) but I had a couple of hemoragging incidents. Take all the help you can get and rest after your surgery. Good Luck and God Bless!
yogajane

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Originally Posted by bigbucknchick This is a major event in my life and I need to vent no matter how many times I say the same thing. Sorry for the vent, just needed to get it off my chest

Hi bigbucknchick,
You are absolutely right. THIS IS A HUGE MAJOR EVENT! VENT ALL YOU WANT! POST EVERTYTHING YOU FEEL.
I promise it will help you feel better. I know exactly what you're talking about. This TAH-BSO in 6 more days for me and I'm sure for you and so many others , probably tops on the list one of the hardest decisions we will ever have to make in our lives. I started a thread a few days ago called NEED SSS. I was asking for Sympathy, Support and Suggestions. I didn't get many responses but I kept at it and posted new threads. I am making myself heard. That's why we are all here, WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER!!!! PLEASE REMEMBER THAT. I have been frantic too. Moments of panic, tonight was the first time I could honestly post that I am feeling a bit calmer. Check out my thread it can be found in the New Posts Section titled "What were the first few days at home like" "Care to Share". These are the words that really helped me. The sisters are telling me what they have gone thru, just like you & I.
Sometimes our closest family members just can't deal with it and talk about themselves instead, it's a defense mechanism. I know we want them all to read our minds and why don't they understand what we are going thru? Don't they realize how bad & scared we feel? Why is no one taking care of me and treating me special. Don't they realize I'm haing major surgery and I'm scared I could die? Tons of questions like these, we ask ourselves.

SO VENT ALL YOU WANT! We will help each other!

You are so lucky to have such a suportive husband, my husband is th epolar opposite. His question to me today was this. So what are we gonna do all summer, how long are we going to be stuck home? This *****, said he!"
Sure does I thought to myself and so do you (him) he's so worried about going boating. He thinks this is going to be like my past laparoscopies, a couple days and back to normal. I am dealing with a very selfish husband and we don't talk much. I too am bleeding like mad, my last period, it's rivers, he keeps asking done yet? He just wants to make sure he has sex before i go to the castle. Selfish, selfish. I hope to God he is there for me in the hospital. You are lucky to have such a supportive husband. I am happy for you.

These boards helped me so, so much that last night even though i really could not afford to do it. I upgraded my membership. I felt like it was the best $25.00 I've ever spent in my life. I just can't imagine how I'd be feeling right at this moment if I didn't find these boards. No one told me about them. I was just searching Hysterectomy options on Google. I feel like God never gives us more than we can handle in one day. try to remember that. When we are at our lowest lows, sometimes it takes times to climb back up again. Let me tell you, you are on your way, you are here and you are welcome to vent anytime.

Liz

So sorry you are going through all of this. In only ten days you will be at the hospital and it will all be over. For the most part, my TVH was/has been a piece of cake. Maybe Aunt Flo just wanted to go out with a bang! Hang in there!

Thanks Liz I needed that! I was lucky enough to stumble on this site by google too... Several friends have called me today and say you don't sound right ( I am ALWAYS laughing and joking around) and I immediately burst into tears. This has got to stop. I don't like myself like this. I am going to be coming your way 3 weeks post op. Can't wait to come back to New York (hope I can make it) It is a trip I have been looking forward to for 6 months now. Dr made me promiss that I wouldn't go if I wasn't feeling up to it Thank you for your support and kind words! I really need them right now. I wish you good luck and a speedy recovery on your trip to the castle!

Hang in the chick! You'll be so glad you did it. I'm on the recovery train and it's not bad. I was a bit nervous before surgery but I was also so excited to be rid of the terrible periods and pain. I kept a very positive attitude. I know that helped me through it. Try and relax and look forward to some very deserving R&R!