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I had a vaginal hysterectomy with anterior and posterior repairs done in '03; the prolapses came back and I had cystocele, enterocele and rectocele repaired in Jan '06. Doc says all is healed. However, the vaginal pain was so great I waited until May to start having sex. It is still painful and I was also shocked at how short my vagina is--less than 2 inches long. So in addition to pain, penetration feels awful--like something is banging up against a wall. Doc has given me the script for Lidocaine. He also said the pain may get less in the coming months. Has anyone else had the shortened vagina--does it eventually stretch? Its been 7 months.
Isn't lidocane simply like novacaine? I don't undertand why he would give you something to "numb" you! I think you need to see a new doctor, the one that does your surgery rarely admits there could be something wrong, (sorry, this is not meant to be a "bash") but I think a pelvic pain specialist would be the way to go now. They should be able to tell you if you have been shortened too much, and get your surgical report to bring to the new doctor. There may be some reason, (like scar tissue or endo) that you have been "shortened" if that is in fact what happened. It is always best to get a second opinion anyway. Maybe you are simply swollen in there for some reason? Anyway, good luck with this.
I just saw your post today and wanted to let you know that you are not alone. There have other women posting about this problem and if you do a search on "shortened vagina" you should find more info.
Your doctor may have you try a dilator to use on a regular basis to help stretch it. Also, there are women who have had grafts to lengthen their vagina.
Unfortunately most of us were not told that this could happen with pelvic surgeries.
I agree; I haven't filled the prescription because I don't want to be numb. How would one go about finding a pelvic pain specialist? Thanks for reminding me; I have forgotten to get the surgical report.
I can't say that I know exactly how you feel, I was only shortened by two inches or so, enough to...limit things. The thing that is causing the pain is a pinched nerve in the inscision itself. It is a constant, tearing pain which only gets worse during sex. It has made climax a thing to be feared. Sorry to be so gritty, this being my first posting and all - I was just so relived not to be alone in this situation.
Yeah, that limiting feeling is the pits; its like somebody jumping on a trampoline inside. If you find someone who treats such pain, please post, and I'll do the same. Mine isn't a nerve pain; its the scars.
Forshortening of the vaginal is not uncommon at all. I have always had pain after my hyst and it has been
5 yrs. The Pelvic specialist told me I would always have
pain there, because when they sew you up it does
shorten things, plus that is where the incision is. I have
been left with chronic vaginal and pelvic pain ,daily anyway, but sex just makes it worse. We had sex
night before last, me on top, and that is the worse
position for me, I forgot about that, and boy am I
paying for it.
Well, I can share a success story. I had a couple of vaginal surgeries about 6 weeks apart to remove abnormal cells. After the second surgery, I was so small I could barely get a finger in. There was a considerable amount of swelling and a great deal of pain. At 13 weeks, my gyn said we could try sex, but it was impossible. Determined to have sex again, I started working quite hard on my vaginal wall. First I started with alternating days of calendula oil and vitamin E oil, and massaging and stretching the walls the best I could. I was diligent and did this at least twice a day. After a few weeks, I noticed it was not quite so sore, and I didn't have to work so hard even to get the finger in. So I went to the local adult store and picked up the smallest vibrator they had. It was uncomfortable but I kept at it, and things continued to expand. I moved up to the next size. I finally got to the point that I could use this larger size prior to intercourse kind of as a warm-up (for lack of a better term) and then I could tolerate intercourse quite well. The whole thing took several months. After about a year, I could go straight to intercourse. However, I do need to stay active at least twice a week. If I don't, the scar tissue starts shrinking up again and it can be very painful the next time I'm intimate. It's still tender periodically, but most of the time things go quite well and the tenderness subsides quickly.
I hope things get better for you soon. Be diligent, but also be very patient. It takes time but it's possible that it can work out for you. Good luck!
just read what you wrote- my vagina shrunk d/t internal rad after a hysterectomy d/t cervical cancer- having sex is painful d/t scar tissue- I have not been dilligent with the dilator and need to do so- I getbummed out after sex as my fiance cant fit himself all the way in- between that and the pain i get bummed out- but things could be worse- I will try as you di thanks for the help!!