Everything is falling apart!

My trip to the castle is scheduled for Thursday, but it seems like the fates are trying to keep me from going! This morning I woke my oldest son up for school only to find that his nasty cold had progessed to pneumonia. He's home from the hosp, but extremely miserable. Then this evening at my youngest son's football practice, he took a wicked hit and cracked several ribs. He's started complaining of belly pain and I'm afraid we'll be going back to the ER for the third time today. I know that I absolutely have to have this surgary as soon as possible because the pain from my periods has progressed from uncomfortable to nearly going into shock. Do I put myself before the needs of my kids? I feel so guilty that I'm not going to be able to help them. I have a great family and husband who would help in any way they could, but when you're really sick, no one can replace mom. I was really looking forward to the castle, but now I'm feeling miserable and selfish. Honestly, after the episode of pain I went through last night, I'm not sure I can wait and reschedule. Should I suck up the pain and get my kids on their feet, or do I call in the troops to try and take care of all of us in shifts? Either way I'm between a rock and a hard place. Does the liquid bowel prep allow for a good stiff drink or three?..lol

If you have family support and a supportive husband, let them take care of the kids for a while and have the surgery. You will be a much better mom to the kids if you aren't in pain. Just trust that the rest of the family can stand in for you this time. If you are like most moms I know, you put off anything for yourself (sometimes including your health) to do for the kids. This time you NEED to be selfish. Good luck!

Oh honey, hang in there. Hopefully you have family or friends that can pitch in and help out with the kids. You need to take care of you. This is important for you. It's ok to be selfish right now. Plus you and I share a surgery date and I need someone to compare notes with! :-)

(((hugs)))

I'm sorry to hear so much is happening to your family.


I agree with the others, if the help is there then you should take care of yourself. Best wishes.

Thanks girls! I really needed a boost. Pneumonia boy is sleeping peacefully and belly boy's doc says that he's just mucho sore and he'll be fine in a few weeks. Hey, look at the bright side,neither of them can get around well enough to destroy the house while I'm playing princess..lol It's a miracle in disguise! Hugs to Butterflyboo & JazzyLoo ! We'll have the same anniversary, how cool is that! You'll have to keep me posted on how your coronations went. I'm going into this without a hint of regret. Nothing that happens can be any worse than what I've been living with for years, so if I come out with less than I went in with, its a good day..lol Enjoy your lovely liquid lunches. I even bought the extra cushy potty paper and decked out the bathroom with all sorts of things to pass the time. (No pun intended. Well maybe a little..)
Thanks again for telling me that I'm not a horrible mother for thinking of myself. I feel like I just won the lottery.

I'm glad you kept your date and I'm glad you feel comfortable with the decision, but just to clinch it for ya... There was no almost about it - I DID go into shock and both times I was already in a room in the ER, and let me tell you, it felt like I was dying. And I suppose I was. My heart rate went sky high and erratic. My BP bottomed out. And the last thing I heard before losing consciousness was the doctor saying "oh my god why is this happening?" gee i dunno maybe it's cause i just lost buckets of blood WHILE you watched?

I am scheduled for Friday. For some reason laparoscopics are harder to schedule here - you have to wait longer - and my body REALLY wants to bleed out. The only thing holding the dam back is BC pills which ideally one shouldn't take before surgery (risk of blood clots). I waited too long. The fact that I came so close to death - they thought I was having a heart attack - makes me think that some women actually DO bleed to death. Anyone know the stats on that?

Safe journey tomorrow. I envy you for being a day ahead of me!

Hi, I am glad you kept your date and your kids are doing well too. Best wishes for a uneventful surgery and a speedy recovery! Melanie

Suburban...most definetely think of yourself, do not change the date. Let the hubby and family take care of things. I know I am... I am a nut when it comes to having everything planned out. And this time I just have to trust everyone to handle things for me. Thinking of yourself does not make you a bad mom, in this case it makes you a better mom because this will be a one shot deal and then never more for the monthly pain and agony. Best of luck tomorrow, I will be thinking of all that are at their coronations. Mine is Friday. MTD

Coming in on this a little late, but I'm glad you've kept your date too. We seem to spend our whole lives as moms and wives putting others first and sucking it up when we're in pain, out of sorts, whatever. The boys sound like they will be fine and you sound like you have a great support system in place. Son w/ pneumonia I'd be steering clear of just so you don't catch anything....ugh....can you imagine!!!! Its your turn honey. Time for you to be able to live the rest of your life pain free and that ultimately lets you be a better mom and wife.

Karen

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Originally Posted by stitcher8 If you have family support and a supportive husband, let them take care of the kids for a while and have the surgery. You will be a much better mom to the kids if you aren't in pain. Just trust that the rest of the family can stand in for you this time. If you are like most moms I know, you put off anything for yourself (sometimes including your health) to do for the kids. This time you NEED to be selfish. Good luck!

Just totally seconding stitcher... You can't be a 'good' mom to them when suffering so much pain yourself. They'll be just fine. Let "dad" and others see all the work you do. *smiling*

Best wishes for a successful surgery and speedy recovery!!!