Why am I so snappy?

Ever since I found out I was having a hysterectomy I've been biting everyone's heads off.I'm surprised my husband hasn't left me,bless him.He went to work and booked the time off after the hyst.He's got 10 days.His boss asked him if there's someone who could look after me and the kids for a day or 2 so he could go in and do some work as there are 4 people on vacation the same time and there's only 9 people in his office.I immediately jumped down his throat about it.We ended up having a huge fight last night over nothing.I'm also really snappy with the kids.Normal kid things they do are suddenly annoying the hell out of me.Sometimes I get to the point where I just want to leave.Is this normal?When can my hubby and kids expect to have the real me back?

AnnaL,

Here comes a big . It's a difficult time for you right now. Many women are scared and so uptight before they have surgery. Some are worried about time missed at work and getting things done and in order before going to the castle for surgery.

You are not alone when your emotions change quickly. Each woman is different when trying to answer your question regarding how soon will I quit biting other people's heads off. Please visit the pre-op boards often. You will find plenty of other women who are very similar to you. Every question on the boards is a good one. There is no such thing as a silly question around here. All of us want to support each other and in doing so we learn so much!!!

See you on the boards,

Hi Anna,

You said you were being hugely snappy and asked, "Is this normal? When can my hubby and kids expect to have the real me back."

Boy are you going to get a lot of answers! Every one of them will tell you YES it is normal. Why is it normal?

(1) The thought of surgery and all the ramifications (physical, financial, emotional)

(2) Your current health (pain, bleeding, anemia, hormones, etc)

When will the real you come back?

(1) Possibly when you adjust to the idea of surgery and all your fears and worries have been dealt with or are under control and you can relax a bit.

(2) Possibly when your current physical symptoms go away.

(3) Possibly when your body is healthy and your hormones are in balance once again.

Be kind to yourself. You have a full plate of health issues and family issues, then the doctor says here have a helping of this and loads up your plate with surgery issues, something usually falls off the edges. Try to focus on the future and being healthy and keep the gun located in a separate part of the house away from from the bullets. ;-)

Big Hugs for YOU!
Miranda

It's really hard to have to deal with other people's "stuff" when all you want to do is crawl into a corner and cry. Every little thing feels like an imposition...nobody can understand that WE ARE SCARED...we need to be the center of the universe AND be left alone at the same time. Is that asking so much!!!!

You are going through a very real life altering scary thing right now...and this will pass. It's a roller coaster from start to finish, but as soon as you start getting used to the idea, it does seem to slow down a little.

You'll be ok....and better, even...try to take time for yourself and do things that you like, and things will start to fall back into place. When it's over, you'll be the person you want to be.

Karen