Missing my Mom

Hello all. I had my surgery 7 weeks ago due to fibroids, ovarian cysts, and family history. This March 13th will be 20 years since my mom died from ovarian cancer. I can hardly believe it has been that long. I was 23 when she died, so I have been without her for almost half my life now.

It is really strange . . . when I was preparing for surgery I wanted to be able to talk to her about the surgeries she went through. But now, during my recovery, I have been missing her more than ever. I wish I had been more conscious of the surgery aftermath and pain she went through at the time . . . it was all about the cancer. I feel like we forgot to even worry about how she was doing from the surgeries.

There are alot of other women in my life that have been so helpful and comforting. But there is just no one like your own mom.

Here's a big hug just for you!

I had to respond to your post because just last night I was crying (again) over the loss of my dad to cancer seven years ago this month. Funny how things will get you out of the blue just when you think you're all "cried-out." In an odd way, I lost (part) of my mom then, too because she's not been close to the same since he died.

We ladies are so connected to our parents, especially our moms. Even though your mom can't be here physically, remember she's always with you spiritually and in your heart. I believe you can still "talk" to her when you need to. Of course, I know it's not the same, but it's what we have. Remember, you have a very special angel who's been watching over you and will continue to do so. Her love for you goes on, too!

I wish I could say more or had some brilliant advice, but I hope it helps to know that you're not alone in your feelings. .

Take care!
monami

I gasped out loud when I read your post, I have been thinking so much of the same thing. My mom died 5 years ago and I have missed her so much that I've been dreaming about her every time I sleep at all. In my dreams we are talking and laughing and I'm healthy and she is too. It's been a terrific blessing that I'm sure is drug induced but I don't care. In some strange way I feel better knowing I can connect with her even in that subconscious way. I wish you the best, no one can replace your mom, just remember no one has to...she's still your mom, still loves you, and is with you in your heart.

I miss my mom as well, she died of ovarian cancer in 1986 and I was in my 30's. We were close and I thought I had made peace with all of it until recently, and now dad has lung cancer, so all the old feelings and new ones are having to be dealt with.

Our moms are special, and they will be with us always. Please know you are not alone and we are here for you.

s

My heart goes out to everyone here!

I lost both parents in my late 30's. Dad to lung cancer at 61. Mom to heart & lung disease at 59! I have wished this year more than ever that my Mother was still around to talk to about everything I've been through. I'm 53 now and trying to reconcile my family legacy of longevity because of how young my parents were when they passed away. I have been blessed to have good friends to lean on when I've needed the care and comfort I've been missing.

Best Wishes!!

I agree . . . as I get closer to the age my mom was when she was diagnosed (50), it starts to freak me out. At least at this point I can't get the same thing (no more ovaries!). But ever since she died I haven't assumed I will live to a ripe, old age. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing . . . I think you should live every day and not put stuff off. You never know if you will make it to that "someday".

I'm crying now guys because i want my mum, having lost both my parents in my twenties, all i want now is a hug and a kiss from her. SHe has been dead for 14 years, so was not around when i was going through all this stuff, and now post op, i am desperate, just one kind word from her, i would talk to my Gran (her mum) but she hasn't spoken to me since it has all happened and when i see her i am just told about the wonders of motherhood, and now that my twin has had her first child i am even more isolated from my family, as they do not call me even after many calls from me. So, i just plough on and hope that i can get over it. That why we come here for support, and knowing that we are not alone, in our feelings.

Puds

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how you feel, my mom died when I was 19, I am 36 now and it feels like it was yesterday. After I had my surgery and even before I just wanted to talk to her to make sure I was doing the right thing. And afterward for her comfort. It just shows you that no matter how old you are you still need and want your mom.

Again, I am so so sorry for you.
Antsangel

i just got done crying all day over missing my mom. i lost her this january from breast cancer. she was my best friend and i feel so lost without her. i just want her to be at peace now. i have such a heavy heart for all my sisters who have lost a loved one...tl

I am so sad for all of you sisters that have lost your mom. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I know us sisters don't come anywhere close to your precious moms, but please know that we are always here for you if you ever just want to talk or cry. We'll do it with you across the miles through this site. Love to you all!