A friend is pregnant

Okay, forgive me sisters if this is going to sound dreadful, but I just found out a minute ago that one of my friends is pregnant. Although I know it shouldn't affect me, sad to say, it does. I told myself I'd be strong about it, and that my emotions are all under control - no matter what I hear from other people, etc.. but I can't help but feel a little envious and I dislike feeling this way.

There are so many things that make us a true woman. I know that our womb alone doesn't make us complete. But darn, this is harder than I thought it would be.

I understand your sadness. After my hysterectomy, until i got my puppy, wanted a baby (even though my tubes were tied) more than anything. I did not want to see a pregnant woman or watch anything on tv about it. Was even a bit jealous knowing my sister-in-law is pregnant with triplets (IVF).

MoonlightLady,
What you are feeling is totally normal so don't feel bad about having the feelings you do. I went through a time where I felt empty and sad because I knew I wouldn't be able to have any more kids. It was weird because I didn't want more children, it was just the fact that the hyst cemented that fact. I ended up calling my mom to ask if she went through that after her hyst. ( she had hers when she was about 30) She reassured me that she did and that it is normal to go through so I will pass that on to you. Take care and know that you aren't alone.
Val

Moonlight
Here's one for you. My girlfriend has a 13 year old and is preggers!!!! We both just looked at each other in shock!!!
But your not alone, I love her like a sister I never had and I'm so stinking excited for her But this green jealousy monster has perched on my shoulder and I can't seen to shut him up!!!!
amy lou

hi there,
I am 29 and have 3 children and had a tubal (yes we were done) and I still had a hard time giving into the whole removing of the womb hysterectomy that I had last Sat. I think it was the fact that I always thought I was in control of my body and this made it feel as if all control was lost to a Dr. Once I overcame this the rest came a lot easier. I feel for you and the bad thing is that coming out of recovery (which they failed to mention) I woke to babies crying on the ob floor of the hospital. I would have been devistated at this if I hadn't had a month to come to grips with the whole situation. I feel for you really I do
best wishes
Heather

You know, I understand. I'm 43, never wanted kids, but somehow, after my TAH, I felt like I'd totally missed something in life. Isn't that weird?

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Originally Posted by MoonlightLady Okay, forgive me sisters if this is going to sound dreadful, but I just found out a minute ago that one of my friends is pregnant. Although I know it shouldn't affect me, sad to say, it does. I told myself I'd be strong about it, and that my emotions are all under control - no matter what I hear from other people, etc.. but I can't help but feel a little envious and I dislike feeling this way. There are so many things that make us a true woman. I know that our womb alone doesn't make us complete. But darn, this is harder than I thought it would be.

I understand those feelings totally.
Even though DH and I have a wonderful family, and DH had the big V in Feb, I spent a couple days crying here because my uterus was gone and I will never have another baby. Its something that defined me as 'mom' for 21 years, and its over,gone, for good, even though I hadn't planned on having anymore kids.
{{ }}'s

I totally understand what you are feeling. I am 38 and never really wanted kids of my own. I like kids, but having them was never up there on my priority list. But yet, the day I found out that I had to have this surgery....I seemed to notice every young child and baby that I saw...at restaurants, stores, etc. I found out just the other day (when I ran into her at the mall) that one of my friends is expecting another child. She is my age and last time I saw her she was wanting to talk her hubby into getting a vasectomy....guess he didn't get one. Her oldest is in high school.

I still don't want kids, but I do get those unexplained feelings of knowing that I really CAN'T have kids now.

Hey, its hard, but hang in there. I think for me, it's the finality, that I won't have any more kids. No chance at all. But on the bright side, after she has the baby, and is bleeding for the next six weeks, you can thumb your nose at her, cause you won't have that problem at all. LOL

I know exactly how you are feeling. One of my coworkers recently announced she was pregnant. I am thrilled for her because they have been trying for a while and she'll be a great mom. However, driving home that day I totally fell apart, I got home and just lay down in my bed and sobbed. I have 3 great kids and feel bad for feeling this way, but it is a reality for me right now.