Anyone just feel like you don't know who you are anymore?

It has been 1 yr 5 mos since my LAVH was taking Effexor XR, and felt really good, everything with DH and kids was great, life was great. I asked my DR if there was something of a lower dose, that I felt the Effexor was too much for me. I have been taking Zoloft .25MG, then everything just seemed to go down hill...

Me and DH started to fight about stupid stuff, (and I think it was and is that we are both trying to get used to the new me). We got into a financial rut, if it werent' for my kids and the girls that I work with, they are what makes me smile anymore.! I went out with some of my single friends a couple of times, like to a bar.. No one got into trouble, no one bothered us, and he was mad b/c I stayed out too long. Then he got upset about my Myspace, but he can do online poker or search ebay for hours, and it's okay. It's like do as I say , not as I do. I haven't gone out, even though, when I was out and about, I felt alive. Or he can go hang out with his friends all day, and me and the kids stay home alone, but if me and the kids go to a friends house all day, its a guilt trip that he was home alone all day and bored. bla bla bla...

I got married at 17, and have been with my DH ever since, we have been married for 13 years and together for 16; have two wonderful children. I was always so passive, so quiet, didn't and still don't like confrontation. But it seems like alot of the things that he does (like hogging the remote or leaving coca cola cans for me to pick up) just really bug me anymore. And these things never really bothered me until after my surgery... I love my children, and dont' want to be a bar hopping person, that's not what I am saying. I just never really did anything as a teen, and never really wanted to, but kind of feel like I never sewed my oats as a teen, maybe that's what's wrong with me?!!!

I have talked to my DR and he told me I can take up to 4 Zoloft a day, to try that, but it sounds like I need to talk to someone. I made an appt with a counselor or someone...just to talk to someone...to get an outside point of view.

You know that song by Chris Brown...It's new...you'll have to hear it, but I swear that's exactly how I feel right now. Like I love him, but not in love with him anymore?!! I sure hope it's just this emotional rut that I am in...I don't know...I just feel alone and all by myself sometimes....

Spending time with my kids is the most important thing to me. I am glad that I have them...THey are my sunshine!


I think alot of this is just the holidays...Christmas wasn't all that because his BFF owes us $1100 and my BFF owes us $350, but it's okay for us to be broke and struggle...Everyone else have a merry christmas! lol
If anyone is feeling the same way, please let me know..Because I feel like I am loosing my mind.!!!!

Sounds like you're going through a lot. Are you sure about the Zoloft dosage? I take 100 mg a day which is 400 times what you listed (.25 mg). I started it cyclically for PMDD a few years back at 50 mg/day and at the beginning of Nov. was upped to 100 - both of which are still considered low dosage levels. The day I was upped was also the day it was decided to go ahead with the TAH/BSO surgery. I'll be taking the Zoloft for a few more months and then plan to try weaning from it since I feel so much better (no more anxiety, etc).

I found that using the pharm. options available helped me think things out in a more rational manner and made it easier for me to deal with a really bad situation; in my case it was work. I actually like my job and without the chemical reactions (over reactions) I realized I don't really want to quit it right now.

DH and I have had similar problems and he's still somewhat annoyed if I'm spending time online chatting (yet he's additcted to ebay and youtube). I can see where he's coming from in some ways and it took us a few months to really work it out. I did do a little rebelling by going out with the gf's and it was quite a rough patch in our marriage though neither of us was really doing anything wrong. We needed to figure out how to talk to each other about it and how to listen to each other. The fact that our sex life was nonexistent thanks to the physical problems I was having (and Zoloft) really didn't help things at all. All I can say is that it took lots of straightforward and at times blunt conversations, a few date nights, and a real desire from both of us to work on things.

I do hope things get better for you very soon.

No, you are not alone.

Check your PM.

Merry Christmas!

Ito think im loosing my mind specialy yesterday but i just put things in prespective and move on and plan different next year.i was married for 23 years we didnt talk there was no comunication i saw a counselor that helped dr wanted me on anti-depressants i wasnt going to take them all and didnt, see a counselor it good to just talk it out
merry xmas

Did you stop the effexor cold turkey? That by itself can make your whole world fall apart, it's something that you have to wean yourself off of. I totally understand about not being yourself, been there!! Talk to your counselor and doctor about weaning off the effexor, the zoloft helps too. Effexor is just as nasty as herion it seems!! Your body get's so addicted, and when you try to quit your body freaks out!!
Take care and know you are loved!!

I understand.... Check your PM.. God Bless, Becky

i can relate, i feel like im going crazy! maybe i am just a little. some days i feel o.k. oher days i feel sooooo angry, today i just feel depressed. my mother came for christmas( my mother is the poster child for disfunctional). i know she means well but her timing stinks. my daughter passed away in 94, and i took it pretty hard. i have been dealing with it by having my mother keep her ashes at her house....well not only did she give them to me to keep in my house she said i think its time for her to come home...hello i just had a major life changing event that by the way i am not dealing with very well...now as i sit here i feel like i am a women on the edge, i have been one minut crying and the other angry...what is wrong with me ....i am gonna go see a doctor this week because i just want to feel like myself again(if that is at all possible) i am sooo sick of post hysterectomy problems and i won't even start with swelly belly and twinges of pain i have...grrrrrrrrrrrr. any suggestions ladies?
love sacha(the crazy lady)

Ya know, someone a week or two ago wrote a thread that included a point about zoloft. You just don't feel anything. I haven't cried in the 2 years since I started taking it[uped it to 100 a while back] I take it for anxiety, ya know that I'm gonna have a heart attack can't breath kinda thing. Zoloft really helps that problem, and when I feel the anxiety coming on I take a klonipin that makes it all go away. Anyway, I feel like my head is filled with air. I have no feelings. This has nothing to do with my hyst. Thats a whole other ballgame. I feel like I have aged 10 years and my hair is falling out and breaking off and my energy comes and goes......whoa is me!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No, I kind of weaned myself off it...I was down to like 5 pills and I took one like every other day until they were gone. And I didn't start with the Zoloft until like 2 mos later. It just feels like everything has gone to crap and I don't know how to get out of this rut...I don't feel like crying anymore, I just feel mad and bla a lot of times....My kids are the only thing really that puts a smile to my face.

okay. I am a ding a ling this am...what is my pm? lol