Could I be crazy?

Hi! New to the site-
I feel like I am going crazy. I have been in pain for so long that now I have the surgery 26 Feb. I am second guessing my symptoms. My DH does not believe me. I am not buckled over all the time, I do not have cancer, but 3 out of 4 weeks I am dealing with some sort of constant pain. I have dealt with it so long I just figure- why not keep dealing with it? Has anyone ever thought that maybe the pain was in their mind as my DH says.

LAVH, R ovary removal, and vaginal cervix removal

forChrist
I doubt you are going crazy; and I am so sorry your husband is being so un-sympathetic regarding your pain.
I know it must seem to men that we are constantly gripping about pain and not feeling well, but they don't have the anatomy we have, and therefore often don't appreciate how a system which has the ability to perform miracles, can also create a living nightmare for the woman in possession of it.
Has your doctor explained why he/she is performing a hysterectomy? Perhaps you could suggest your husband going with you to see your doctor, and you may find he has a new found understanding of your pain.
Best wishes for a successful surgery, and swift recovery. I pray your husband comes through for you.

Snowflake

forCrist It's hard for men to understand something they cannot feel or have no control over. I believe your husband does care about your pain, doesn't understand why it's there. If it's something that can't be fixed by them then they feel useless. I know my husband was walking around like an unsympathetic oof at first, but the closer we got to surgery day the more compassionate and caring he became. Give your husband a job in this by asking him to be at your side while you go to your doctor's appointments. If you feel comfortable have him go into the examining room with you. If that's uncomfortable ask your doctor to explain what's about to happen to you on surgery day and why it has to be done.

Everything will be fine! Just take care of your body and know your doing this not only for you but for your family.

no there is obviously something wrong. I was exactly the same as you and thought I was going Maaaaadddddd!!!!!! After TAH discovered I had Endometriosis, and boy is it painful.
Good Luck x x x

Thank you to everyone first and foremost!
I am really scared and feel so alone. I logically know I am going to be ok, but I need to know I have support. I need to cast my fears and worries and anxiety out to my DH. Hence, a reason for marriage-
Well, w/ or w/o the DH I Will Survive (Gloria Gaynor)-
This site has b/come my sanity and I thank you all for all the postings in every area.


May God Bless you and Success Always Be At Your Side-

s to you forChrist, and welcome to the sisterhood! You will find this is a great place to come for support, encouragement, or just a soft place to fall....As for the second guessing...that is more common than you think! I can't tell you how many posts like that I've read on here...and I had similar feelings in the weeks before surgery too! I'd say it's pretty normal!

As for hubby thinking the pain is in your head, try not to let it discourage you too much...empathy doesn't come easily to the average guy, especially when you're dealing with an area that they just have no frame of reference for....Maybe you can appeal to his sense of logic...for example, a doctor is not going to perform a major surgery for a condition that only exists in the patient's head! One of the ladies suggested having your DH talk with your Dr....this is a great idea! Sometimes having another man, or at least a professional (if your Dr is a woman) tell them something carries more weight than when we say it! As infuriating as this is, try to use it to your advantage if you can!
Blessings and ,
Janice

Thank you. The site has offered many blessings. DH has spoke with Dr. and my girlfriend had hysto also. Her husband did not believe her and when the surgery was over and the Dr. told her husband how mangle everything was you can only imagine how he felt. She and I described the same pains, etc; but there is just something to having the DH by your side. I do not even want him there; yes, DH is acting that bad. But on a psoitive note, I am going to chalk it up too him being scared and not knowing how to deal with this etc; I have to stay positive or recovery will be that much difficult. I truly believe that my mind set determines the recovery. I have two kids and my baby boy (6) does not like mommy hurting or in a hospital. My daught (7) does not like it but will see I am ok then go about her life. She is great like that! So, I need to keep my wits. In the end all will be well.
Reading all of these has helped me so much.

Tell me abou the Adeno surgery and recovery, etc.