One month post op and my libido is stronger than it has ever been. Since I havn't been able to actually "do the deed," I can't tell you what sex is like post hyst, but we have touched and petted and all works well. Orgasms are different but still wonderful.
I think that I am more aware of my body now that I have had my hysterectomy. Before, I was so wrapped up in all the female issues surrounding my uterus, cervix and ovaries that I hadn't any room left for the brain to work.
I also had really severe PMS that seemed to be present 3 weeks out of the month and my poor DH was just not interested in being told "no" so often.
I had a really hard time with the BSO decision and wavered back and forth for many weeks. I can honestly say that if I had to do it over again, I would have done it 6 years earlier.
My moods are so placid now. I still laugh. I still cry. I still get mad and stomp my feet. The difference is that I can do all these things and then let it go. Before, I would hold on to my emotions for weeks making myself and those around me miserable.
Please keep in mind that this is only my experience and the decision to keep or rid yourself of your ovaries is a serious and complicated desision that needs to be well thought out and planned. Talk to other women, discuss it with your doctor and your husband, and make sure that you and your husband are 100% sure of any decision that you make. There is no going back once you make this decision but you can always go forward and have them removed at a later time if the need arises.
Ask yourself if there is any kind of risk in keeping them. Does ovarian cancer run in your family? Do you have any kind of ovarian disease? Are you prepared for HRT and all the issues surrounding it? Will you feel like less of a woman without your ovaries? Take out paper and weigh your own individual pro's and con's. Ask lots of questions and follow those questions up with your own research.
I know that I went above and beyond what you were asking, but I know that the BSO issue is a great one with all the ladies in waiting on this site.
In a nutshell, I dotted the BSO/Increased Libido because mine has gone up. As far as everything being lost following a BSO... I guess a lot has been lost. I lost my uterus, my ovaries, my tubes, my rotten attitude, my monthly periods, my cervical cancer, my pads, my rotten attitude, my swollen and aching body, my worries, my rotten attitude, and my negative approach to sex. If I had to loose it again. I would.
WooooooHoooooo I FEEL LIKE A NEW WOMAN! Did I tell you that I lost my rotten attitude?
Hugs and loves,
(now where is that good looking hunny of mine?