dad died a couple of days ago my surgery in a couple of weeks

My dad died just a couple of days ago, very unexpediately. My surgery is the 14th. I still have not broke down and cried, too busy handling the funeral arrangement. Plus my husband is the one who found my dad and he is not handling this well. Want to be strong for the rest of the family. My dad always said that I rode point (rode ahead of everyone and look for water and problems) so I feel I owe it to him to be strong.

I called and asked the doctor if we can move the date and they said no. The fibroid is putting too much pressure on my liver now. I have to do this.

Has anyone else had to go through this before there surgery, if so how? Should I put it off despite what the doctor says. What do I do?

This is one of the few places that I can let out all my fears and frustration.

BLESS YOUR HEART!!
I just want to tell you that I am so sorry you lost your father and I will be praying for you and your family.
I hope whatever you decide to do about your surgery works out for you!!

Take care!!

Always,

*Robbi*

I'm very sorry to hear about your dad....But I'm sure if your dad could speak to you more then likely he would tell you to look after yourself , I realize its a tough decision but im sure "dad" would want you to have your surgery as planned...hugs and your in my prayers...

I'm sorry for your loss. My then 61 year old Dad died 4 years ago unexpectedly too and that is so tough to process. However, if your dr doesn't want you to wait, then I would listen to the dr. The dr. has your best physical interest in mind and letting a fibroid continue to grow makes it harder on you in the long run. Hang in there.

i'm so sorry for your loss

Rancherdaughter I am so sorry for your loss. My surgery is scheduled the same day as yours. My are with you and your family.

Like all the sisters said, it sure sounds like your father would have wanted you to take care of yourself and go ahead with your surgery. If you Doctor says not to cancel, it would be wise to listen. Good luck with your decision.

Rancherdaughter -

I am so sorry to hear about the death of your father. This was an emotional time for you anyway, now this just compounds it. Take care of yourself, we will be praying for you!

Billie

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. If your dad said you always rode point then you should know that not being healthy enough to guide the rest of the family isn't what he would have wanted. I think you should go ahead w/ the surgery and make sure you are taken care of. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry you are having to deal with all of this on top of the stress from the surgery. Please take care of yourself.

I am so sorry for your loss. I've said a prayer for you and your family.

I had several traumatic and stressful events happen to me leading up to my hysterectomy, so I can speak to the "one more stressor" and even to you maybe feeling like this is unbelievable, how can it all be happening to you? I didn't lose a parent, though, so I can't say how I would react or give you any advice.

If you are in need of surgery, I am sure your father would want you to get it done. If you buy a little more time and delay it, what, really, are you buying it for? What would you gain?

During this time of testing just say yes, I am being tested, my faith and my strength are being put under pressure, but I can do it, I can make it through this, I am a strong and wonderful woman who will be healthier after this operation.

I wish you lots of luck and I will certainly keep you in my prayers as you go through this tough time. I'm sorry this happened. Try to find some time for yourself and just breathe, clear your head, and make a rational decision.

hi rancherdaughter - i am sorry for your loss. i am a "rancher's daughter" too... lost my dad 4 years ago and was ( and still am sometimes ) so devastated by losing my dear sweet dad. We were close. In my experience, it might be the best time to go ahead and deal with what you need to do... it truly takes awhile for the reality of it all to set in - at least it did for me. It got worse before it got better. My surgery is scheduled for the 7th - just 2 weeks away. Last night i was in tears, sitting on the couch alone after the kids had gone to bed. I closed my eyes and looked up to heaven (as I often do) and knew that dad was up there cheering me on. He is my strength, still, when i need him most. Do it now and don't look back. You will have enough emotional other to deal with as the months pass... Good luck!