What's the deal???

Hello ladies! I don't know what's up with me. I kept both my ovaries, but have not been the same person AT ALL since my surgery. I can't sleep. My doctor gave me 15 Ambien so I could rest after the surgery, and now that they're gone, I can't get any sleep, not even with Simply Sleep or anything OTC. Last night I slept for 45 minutes. I'm so depressed, and already on Cymbalta, which prior to my surgery was working fine. I don't even want to get off the couch or out of bed. I have no ambition at all. I cry at the drop of a hat over nothing. My husband says I've been an evil witch. I catch myself screaming over nothing all the time, and just being very mean all the time. I feel like I haven't smiled in forever. I'm freezing all the time, but sometimes have hot flashes. I have constant night sweats, which I suffered from before the surgery due to taking 2 different steroids, but now they're worse than ever. I have no sex drive and don't want to be touched, when before I couldn't get enough. Everything aches. I have a constant headache. I think about hurting myself, but would never do it because I have kids who need me. I feel like a different person, someone I don't like much. Everyone says these are all symptoms of menopause, but if I kept both my ovaries, I shouldn't be dealing with that, correct?? I really don't want to take hormones because of some other not-so-nice-to-my-body medication I take for Crohn's. I'm at the point where I don't knwo what to do, though. I can't live like this. I see my doctor next week, but I don't know what to say to him or what he'll say. When I mentioned a few of the symptoms I was already having at ~2 weeks post-op (night sweats, hot flashes, not sleeping), he told me to take my temperature when it happened to make sure I didn't have an infection, which I didn't. I'm lost here. Any input would be much appreciated!

You need a ! Please,please let your doctor know what you are going through. It sounds as though something is not quite right, and I hope you and your dcotor can get things figured out. Don't be afraid to speak up, and if he does not listen, you should consider a different doctor. I hope you start feeling better soon!

I also kept my ovaries, but still went into menopause. Please discuss this with your dr.

HI,
you do need a hug. I went through exactly what you are going through. No one understood at all!! No amt. of drs., my own family told me I was just mental and crazy. I cried all the time, had to energy, was horrible to live with and wanted to die. I was weak also. I figured out through bloodwork that my numbers don't mean they are right for me post hyst. My estrogen is only a 60 and my progesterone only a 2 after3 years post hyst. My numbers never did come back up again. I take stuff to sleep at night. Its like the hyster messes with your chemicals including your melatonin and serotonin and then you can't sleep. <oops... please keep the support on the boards>. I know how you feel I"ve been there and absolutely hated it and would never go back there again

Thank you all for the support. I go to the doctor next Tuesday, hopefully he'll help me. My husband and I had a huge blowout on Sunday, he's been stressed about his boss possibly selling the business, and I've been like this, and we just lost it, in front of his whole family no less. Last night he begged me to talk to the doctor because he wants his wife back....boy, did I feel bad, even worse than I already had! I didn't expect this to happen since I was keeping my ovaries.

Metallichic,

I do know some of what you are going through. Definitely a hyst does some weird things to us. You are very early out of surgery though. If you don't feel like getting up and going you should sleep. Chances are you haven't gotten enough rest after such a major surgery. You need a good 6 weeks and sometimes up to 3 months to really start to feel better. Whenever you feel tired lie down even if you don't sleep. Try to cut out whatever you can from your life that makes you stressed and ask you hubby for some understanding. If you feel like yelling, give yourself a time out in your room to de-stress. Having this surgery is very taxing on the mind and body. In time you will adjust, but some things will be better and some worse. I love not bleeding and having the fatigue from my blood loss, but I still have insomnia since the surgery and my 1 year anniversary is tomorrow. The sex life will most likely return and probably you should ask your doc since you are not even 6 weeks out yet which is the usual for resuming sex after a hyst. It will be slow going at first, but have your husband take his time. It took me a few trys to get back to a normal sex life. It will happen. Please hang in there and be patient with yourself.
Hugs,
Tara

((((metallichic)))))) I'm so sorry you're going through all of this

At not quite a month post-surgery, you are still very early in your recovery. Some of your symptoms could be a sign that you're trying to do too much too soon. I know that when I'm achy and not feeling well, I tend to be very short tempered. And that's when I can't seem to keep the tears away.

You really should discuss these symptoms with your doctor, especially since you have other documented issues that could be interfering with your recovery and/or causing hormonal unbalance. Doctors are there to help us get to the root of such problems

I've always had issues with but it's been much, much worse in the past 3 years. I now take Trazodone, an antidepressant, to help me sleep... and stay asleep... and it's made a world of difference. And when I get enough sleep, I'm much less likely to be grumpy.

I also kept my ovaries. However, for the first 3 months following my surgery, they went on strike. My OB/GYN explained that it was due to the absence of the uterus and the shock of the surgery. When they woke up, it took a while for them to get back to normal

Hello ladies. I thought I'd update you all after my visit with my doctor on Friday. I went in early because I have been having pain in my bladder; even though my urine was normal, he treated me with 5 days of Levaquin, which hasn't done anything. I mentioned all of my symptoms to him, and he more or less blew me off. He put me on Elavil, even though I'm already on Cymbalta, and gave me 15 more days of Ambien. I go back on the 22nd. I see my gastroenterologist tomorrow, so I'm going to discuss all of this with her as well. I did find out that I had endometriosis, which was the cause of all the bleeding and pain.

Thank you all for the supportive words. I will keep you updated.