6 Days Post Op - Kept both ovaries - EXTREMELY moody

I am new here and very thankful I found this site.

I and 34 yo and had a vaginal hysterectomy on 2/22/08. I have been home since 2/23/08. The past 2 days I have been an emotional wreck. I am home all day by myself and when my husband gets home I feel like all he wants to do is sit on the couch in the living room while I'm in the bedroom. He does not have a job where he is physically working hard, he makes his own hours and I feel like he is avoiding being home with me.

I know this isn't necessarily the case but it's the way I feel. Then I find myself crying for no obvious reason - I'm not watching sad movies or anything that would "trigger" crying. Then I turn angry and say things I shouldn't. Then I am crying by myself again. Heck, I'm tearing up right now just typing this.

Laundry isn't getting done and my house is slowly turning into a wreck. I am possibly a tad OCD when it comes to having a neatly home.

Is this too soon for me to be experiencing this influx of radical emotions? I am going from one extreme to another fairly quickly. My post op doc visit is in 2 weeks. Do I wait and talk to my doc then or do I go ahead and call her about these issues I'm having?

My husband was supportive of the surgery.

Hi (((HDS)))
Welcome to Hystersisters! I'm sorry you're struggling with your emotions so badly right now. I hope it will help to know that this isn't too unusual. Many women have their ovaries go into shock for a while after surgery and this can make it very hard to control your emotions. Surgery itself is often emotional. Your body has been through a shock that often upsets the hormonal balance causing the weeping and mood swings.

The best thing I can recommend is to try to back away from anything that threatens to throw you over the edge. This is why we try to encourage women to pamper the princess. Taking good care of yourself and understanding that you need and deserve some extra TLC can help a lot.

Husbands unfortunately don't always get the memo about special needs and it can be hard for them to be sensitive to the needs that arise after surgery. Try to talk to him and explain how you're feeling and what would be helpful right now. There is a special site for husbands and family called Mister Hystersisters. If he would be willing to do some reading there he would find helpful information and answers to a lot of the questions he might be having too.

I hope you get to feeling better soon. We're always here to listen and help any way we can. I hope you'll drop in often and let us help you through your recovery. Keep us posted on your progress.
's, Rita

Dear HDS... we had surgery the same day! The mood swings seem to be normal! We're all experiencing them to various degrees! I find myself bawling for no reason, not sleeping at night, etc! Call your Dr. so you can talk to her about this. Maybe she can help you through this. I find this site is a lifeline! You can come and vent... get advice.. and know you're not alone!

I feel your pain. I had a TAH on 2/13 and kept my ovaries but I get emotional too. I cry for no reason and am getting depressed when I see my home is a wreck and mess. My husband has done alot for me which I'm grateful but I feel like I'm so helpless.

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Originally Posted by HDS Is this too soon for me to be experiencing this influx of radical emotions? I am going from one extreme to another fairly quickly. My post op doc visit is in 2 weeks. Do I wait and talk to my doc then or do I go ahead and call her about these issues I'm having? My husband was supportive of the surgery.

Hi HDS

While I didn't have the emotional responses that you are having, I DO NOT think that it is unreasonable to be emotional.

Let's think about this:
You hade MAJOR surgery.
You are probably still experiencing some level of pain and discomfort.
You are home alone during the day.
You are feeling alone even when your husband is home.

I think it's fair to be emotional. The thing that I would say is that it won't always be this way. You'll be surprised at how soon you will be gradually doing more and more.

During the day, when you are feeling alone, log on to this site. There is always someone around.

I'll be praying for you.

Blessings on you ....

Thank you all so much for the encouragement. Thank goodness I'm feeling a little more stable emotionally speaking. I just was not prepared for the emotions in any way.

This site is a true blessing and so are you other ladies out there. I am very thankful to have someplace to "lay it all out there" and for the pick-me-ups you've all provided. Hopefuly I'll be a blessing to others on this site soon.

I ended up having a bladder infection, kidney infection and thrombophlebitis in my arm where the IV was. I've been back to the hospital twice since 2/22. Yuck.

Overall the surgery was very smooth for me - it's just been the post-op that's got me down.

Will you have a post op appt with your doc soon? It might help to put a bug in the doc's ear and bring your husband. Maybe the doc can stress again how important it is that you get the recovery you need, and that you need to be taken care of...that you can't get up and cook and clean, and he needs to pick up some slack.