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I wasn't sure how to start for telling your group about myself. I'm 35 and I'm having my hysterectomy today April 2nd. Yesterday I had a severe panic attack. I had to call my doctor to give me something to calm me down. I finally got some sleep. I don't know if I'm just scared because I have family that refuse to be there for me or I am just coming to the realization that I won't have anymore children. I think for me the worse thing is that some of my family keeps saying that they won't come see me in the hospital just because they don't like hospitals. And I'm sorry but that honkerblonkes me off! They expected me to be there when they were in the hospital. That part of my family is so selfish I want to smack them and tell them to think of others. But I know I can't do that. My husband had been really supportive. I would really like to have my mom there with me. She had her hysterectomy when she was in her 20's. So in a way I know that she knows what I'm feeling. I have three beautiful children but there was always part of me that wanted one more. I don't know I guess I'm selfish and just want to know more people care what happens to my other than my mom and my husband. Is that selfish? Every one around me is having babies. My older sister is due April 24th and she's 38 and her other daughter is going to be 17 years older than the baby. I'm so happy for her but jealous too. I'm going though the opposite and it's strange that my older sister is having a baby and I'm loosing the option.

I'm just very confused and feeling alone in this whole thing!
Well I won't be on for a couple days because I'll be in the hospital. I'll pray for everyone having surgery like me!

So sorry for what you are going thru Zoey. I had a LAVH on the 24th. My feelings were the total opposite as mine. I just wanted everyone to stay away and let me be in peace. The only ones there were my husband and son. The ones who did offer to come were put on a 'to call' list for my husband, and he was instructed to call after he had spoken to my doctor. My surgery was scheduled for 7 am, and honestly I remember very little of that day from 6:30 til 1pm. I do remember that before the lights went out, a surgical nurse asked if it was ok for her sister to watch. She was a senior in high school, and would be entering the medical field, just wasn't sure where. I remember the nurse in recovery had dark hair, and said I would be going to my room soon. Not sure of the time, and I don't remember the ride to the room, just waking up there. I remember my hubby going to the hallway to meet my sister-in-law, and her asking 'how is she?' Supposedly, my hubby went to lunch with her. Around 1, I finally got over my 'groggy mind' and got out of bed for a walk.

The rest of my stay was napping in either the chair or the bed, walking, and whining about the catheter. So I definitely wasn't someone to be visiting. lol

As far as your feelings though, they are totally normal. Every woman has different feelings and experiences with this surgery.

Wishing you a speedy and tolerant recovery.

I'm sorry your not getting the support you need. But this place is full of support!! I hope all goes well. I'm 38 and don't have a date yet for my surgery, sometime in May probably because right now I'm recovering from a cone biopsy for cervical cancer. I know it's hard but I personally wouldn't worry so much about your family coming to visit. Like the above poster said, you won't be in any mood to entertain. I'm not having any visitors besides my hubby and children. I have some friends who don't know when to leave. And really I don't want to share all my suffering with them. Take what time you left before surgery to just worry about yourself! It's all about you right now and poo on everyone else! Good luck and please come back to this site and let us know how your doing.

I had tubal 2 yrs ago because i was done..2 boys. After my hyserectomy, I started feeling like, wow, I can't have kids. It is like a finalization. I had no intention of having more but yet maybe somewhere in the back of my mind was the thought that since I still had my parts than it was not impossible. I don't know, it's tough to explain. Now it's like a piece of me is gone and there's no chance ever. It's silly but I know I didn't want anymore kids and that's why the tubal. It will always be in the back of your mind, especially if people around you are all having babies. We have 3 sets of friends who all have babies only a couple months apart. The hysto. is still new to you and hopefully you will be able to adjust. After hysto. even if you keep ovaries you will probably still be hormonal, which is what happened to me..therefore baby thoughts. I like being able to get in car and going without having to pack half of house with me. LOL
Also, about family. we didn't tell my in-laws about my surgery at all because quite honestly, I hate them and they just cause stress. This is about you, not them. I have my husband, and very good friends. You need people who support you or atleast are willing to help and not cause you any stress.
As far as the hospital goes you really don't need a lot of people in and out. You'll be groggy and trying to move gas, no need for an audience.
Good luck with your surgery.
Betty-Jo